Article from BlackVoices.com — I know sometimes we are all a sucker for a good beat, a nice melody and a sweet voice. A current song that has recently made its way to the top of the charts, though, has got to be the worst thing to happen to women since stiletto heels. When I first heard this tune, I wasn’t familiar with Melanie Fiona (pictured above). I just knew that every time I heard the pathetic, desperate lyrics, I was disgusted.

It’s been a long time since I heard a song by a woman that was so destructive to the empowerment of sisterhood. Fiona’s song is basically, the desperate, pathetic woman’s anthem. Forget self-esteem, forget independent thought, forget doing what’s best for you, Fiona loudly proclaims about 15 times a day, every day, on the radio that it’s really about a warm body. Forget demanding that you be treated with respect, as long as he comes home eventually, it’s all good.

Fiona’s song unfortunately tells young women that agonizing over a no-good man, who is clearly bad for you, is not only reasonable but is a true indicator of “love.” It proclaims to the rooftops that having a dirty dog of a boyfriend is okay, and you just have to deal with it as best you can.

And as if we don’t have enough problems with families in the black community, now here comes a woman who shamelessly declares that she also wants to have babies with this man, who admittedly treats her badly. He cheats, they fight, he doesn’t come home — sounds like the perfect man to father your babies, Melanie.


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  • That track is really brilliant, and I’m not even into that genre.

  • Kira

    Should every artist be made to consider their potential impact on a community before writing a song? I don’t think so.

    The song sucks, but I’m personally not concerned about its impact on the “sisterhood”.

  • Akai*

    Article: “…the worst thing to happen to women… …I was disgusted… …destructive to the empowerment of sisterhood… …it’s really about a warm body… demanding that you be treated with respect… …tells young women that agonizing over a no-good man…”
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    Really? I mean, for real? Who da f*ck (at Black Voices) wrote this piece?

    Song after song (in rap and hip hop) is a base idiot going on about his lollipop being licked, telling some skeeze to round up a co-skeeze so he can treat them “with respect” in a ménage à trios, being in love with a stripper, yelling for some “warm body” to shake dat ass etc. So, can they give me a friggin’ break with the misdirected outrage, fake “empowerment” babble and “She’s teaching young women blah blah blah!” feminist nonsense!? If the writer is going to start demanding everyone be socially conscious activists, maybe they should first point in the right direction at “artists” far more deserving of criticism.

    I was turned on to Melanie Fiona after hearing Somebody Come Get Me from “Reggae Gold” a couple of years ago and I dig her current CD as well. I also love the melody of It Kills Me and, no doubt, the lyrics tell the story of an individual that is weak, powerless and stupid. However, any intelligent listener will pick up that the person is unhappy and that the song is certainly not a directive for females or saying this is OK.

    Unlike a lot of others that are currently out, Melanie can really sing. I’m hardly anybody’s prude but I dare say this is preferable to tired, boring, oversexed bullshit lyrics like “If you fucking with me, really fucking with me. You let her put her hands in your pants and be my li’l freak.

    To have framed the issue as if it’s the MO solely of females was bogus. From Hank Williams’ Your Cheating Heart to Bill Withers’ Use Me or The Temptations’ Ain’t Too Proud To Beg, artists (many of the greats) have always put raw emotions to paper and recorded joints like this and, obviously, not just women. One of the biggest pathetic-beggin’-ass-punk songs of all time was Boyz II Men’s End of The Road (first broke Elvis’ 36 year record for song that spent the most weeks at #1):

    “Girl, I’m here for you All those times at night when you just hurt me and just ran out with that other fella? Baby, I knew about it, I just didn’t care. You just don’t understand how much I love you, do you? I’m here for you.

    I’m not out to go out there and cheat all night just like you did, baby, but that’s all right. Hey, I love you anyway and I’m still gonna be here for you till my dying day, baby. Right now, I’m just in so much pain, baby, cuz you just won’t come back to me, will you? Just come back to me.

  • I wonder if most of you on here commenting on this song feel the same way about Mary J. Blige. Mary forged the beginning of her entire career on this type of content. I don’t believe the song is pathetic. In fact, it’s the reality of many women. I don’t think Melanie is promoting or condoning unhealthy relationships……she’s simply shedding light on a topic that has been talked about time and time again. I think most of us women would be lying if we said that we have not been in that type of situation before; loving someone so much that common sense goes out the window.

  • George Smith Patton Jr.~ Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom.