From Black Voices — Ladies, we’ve all been there before. You meet a guy, he’s sweating you and pursuing you with a vigorous passion. Whether it’s an instant or delayed response, you decide to give him a chance and begin dating. Next thing you know you’re being wooed, wined and dined, and in a few weeks you’re floating on cloud nine, because there isn’t anything more refreshing than the novelty of a potential partner. It doesn’t take long before you start tossing around the idea that this could really go from casual dating to a real relationship, and in the blink of an eye you get hit with real-deal feelings for the guy. We assume that since the guy was initially the one head over heels, all systems are a go , and putting all our cards on the table is wise move. Wrong! It’s right at this turning point where many of us ladies falter and forget that men aren’t like us. The way they think, rationalize and take action aren’t the same. Like in chess, it takes just one wrong move, and you’re sitting on your couch surrounded by tissues, in a brainstorm session with your girlfriends trying to figure out where it all went wrong.
In a perfect world, games would never have to be played. But we don’t live in a perfect world. However, knowing the rules may keep you from having to play so many games. Here are ten rules every single gal should live by in the first two months of dating. Pump your brakes, and stay sane!
1. Never ask a guy out
Even in our post modern society where men do respect an independent woman who can do for herself, the thrill of the chase still remains. Men will swear up and down they would rather not deal with a difficult woman or one that is to hard to reel in, but they secretly really do love the challenge. Hard to get still works, because men are smart enough to know nothing worth it comes easy.
2. Never advertise
Branding yourself in business is great, but in your love life? Not so much. Guys recognize that a woman who is always advertising to potential suitors what she can do is also a woman covering up a lot that she can’t deliver. There’s no need to always state how much you can cook or how much you enjoy watching football. If it’s true, actions speak louder than words and he will soon see. Instead of putting all your selling points out there, let him discover your added value. (Continue Reading @ Black Voices…)