Enough is enough! When will the chain of the victimization and alienation of unmarried black women end? If the intimacies of black women’s business must be blasted in The Economist, ABC News and other major media outlets, I call for less number crunching and more real life examples. If I read one more statistic suggesting that I am doomed for a lonely life because black men are my marital preference or because I’m too educated, I’m going to scream. ‘Single black woman’ commentary is unbalanced and its missing a critical voice. Where are the single black men? Fragmented reports on the marital status of black America brings to question the media’s real intentions. What is the purpose of this commentary? For example, The Economist’s stab at the tragic black woman “Sex and the single black woman” doesn’t reveal anything we don’t already know. And while many of us respect Jill Scott’s candor in Essence, why not have that successful black man weigh in on why he’s chosen to marry a white woman?
The media’s propagation of black women’s relationships comes off as another tool to cause disruption and disconnect in our community. It is undoubtedly an extension of post-slavery mythical stereotypes. The weightless conversation often accompanying the quantitative offerings on black women’s single status is the emasculated ‘Mammy’ evolved. It implies the upwardly mobile black woman is so power hungry and distant that she can’t find a black man to marry – oh and here are the numbers to prove it.
Face it, for every single and successful black woman, there is a single and successful black man enjoying his plate of options, refusing to settle. There are a plethora of black bachelors who are basking in the flip side of black women’s alleged misery. Where is the next late night round table on this topic? I call for more balanced accounts, including an array of black men’s voices discussing what’s really going on. Brothers, it’s your turn.
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