From BitchieLife–

I like this poem, song, spoken word, track, I don’t know what to call it, it’s original.  I’m real happy for Wale, and imma let him finish, but…I can’t cosign on this one.  I want to, but if I did, women would have full custody…I mean, right, to call every man in America, a hypocrite.  Men want a woman with ambition, that’s true, but we only want her ambition to go as far as it can without infringing on our ambition.

Scenario: A rapper has just been signed to a multi-album deal with a fat advance.  He’s dating a lawyer who is representing a group of clients who are set to win $350 million in compensatory and punitive damages in a class action lawsuit.  “Can you put your rap career on hold for a moment so that we can win this trial?  I’m sure that after this, I’ll be set for life and can even give you financial support to chase your dreams.”

She even said, “We.”  But you know how this scenario ends…

Based on the logic of “Ambitious Girl” I’m trying to find out why so many successful ambitious Black sisters are single.  And I’m drawing a blank.  If ambition was celebrated then ambitious women wouldn’t be single, they wouldn’t have to lower their standards to find dates, they wouldn’t have to put up with tons of crap and drama to find a date, and there wouldn’t be a need for this song.

It’s no secret that in our community, Black men have been playing second fiddle to Black women for a long time.  (Blame unemployment, heroin, crack, infatuation with blowing money fast that leads to bad credit and absurd amounts of debt, I’m just saying…)  Yet, we still have never gotten used to it or embraced it.  Currently, we’re still deliberating on whether a man is okay with dating a woman who makes more money than him.  Furthermore, men don’t want a woman who they think doesn’t have time for them.  They don’t want to date a woman who asks her significant other to work around her schedule.  Ask female doctors, they’re single, because men can’t deal with their schedules.  Not only can they not deal with it, but they can’t even comprehend the nature of it.

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