The BVX – Ladies, after a break-up we can do some pretty irrational things. Of course, men aren’t immune to these pitfalls but due to our emotional nature we can be more susceptible to the crazy. However to avoid future humiliation, here are a few tips from theBVX to help you keep your sanity.
1. Baby I’m Begging
The whole ‘He broke up with me out of the blue’ speech is pure BS. Whether you noticed or not, chances are your ex saw the demise of your relationship well before you did. Therefore, groveling before him won’t change his mind. Despite what you think, desperation is never hot. Wipe the tears and snot off your face and walk away with some dignity!
2. LOL :)
Just because you can call, text, BBM, IM and email anyone at anytime these days doesn’t mean you’ve got the green light to do all of the above to your ex. Texting him to say ‘I was just thinking of you’ is no longer romantic or sweet, it’s annoying… and stalker-esque. Do yourself a solid and avoid using your phone or computer when thoughts of your ex start bubbling over — sober or drunk.
3. Computer Love
I don’t know how many times I’ve heard the following: ‘So I was reading his status on Facebook today and he said ____ He’s so talking about to me.” There’s a really good chance you’re off the mark or simply paranoid. Reading too much into someone’s status will just make you crazy and monitoring someone’s every move can not only be exhausting, but torturous. If he’s having a good day, you’ll feel slighted, if you feel he’s referencing you, you’ll gain false hope. Either way you spin it, it’s not a good look.
4. Breakup Sex
We all know there’s a window time after a break-up where sex with your ex is acceptable (cue Ne-yo). It’s only natural for you to still want to be physical with someone you’ve established a bond with, however at some point the loving becomes a really, really bad idea. If it’s six months after your break-up and you’re still letting him hit that with no signs of a reunion, then you should probably cease and desist. I hate to tell to you, but your ‘long history’ does not make you immune to jump-off status.