From The Grio / By Tamron Hall It starts with the words “I love you,” and it ends with a punch in the face.

It starts with the line, “It’s us against the world,” and it ends with her against the wall in tears.

It starts with the suggestion of what to wear, and it ends with him saying, “I tear you down to build you up. You are mine.”

I have heard the stories. I have seen the pain. I have watched a loved one suffer in an abusive relationship, and ultimately die because she just could not bring herself to leave.

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month. I recently had the honor for the second time to host the awards dinner for a dating violence awareness organization called Day One.

Day One, a New York City-based group, started its journey of helping victims and survivors of abuse in 2003. The goal: to prevent abuse and protect those who suffer at the hands of–in most cases–people they thought loved them. Over a span of seven years, Day One has helped 22,000 young people learn how to identify abuse and to foster and maintain healthy relationships.

Just writing those words, 22,000 young people, sends chills down my spine. Think about it. We live in a world where we must teach young people how to identify abuse. With so many messages and images of what is right and wrong, there is still so much to be taught on this issue. Why is this the case?

Well, how many times do you think an adult (let alone a teenager) believes that a girlfriend or boyfriend calling a hundred times in a row is love? He or she, blinded by love, sometimes does not realize when that person is crossing the line of what is reasonable. Those repeated calls and messages saying, “You will pick up the phone!” are a demand to be heard, whether it’s wanted or not.

How many have assumed that “crazy in love” is a good thing? How many have thought, “He is so crazy about me, he followed me,” or “He is so crazy about me, he came over without calling and cried at my front door,” or “He is so crazy about me, he beat up another boy.” It happens more often than most could imagine.

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  • jamesfrmphilly

    i got your back tamron. anybody mess wit you gotta come through me!
    ps (call me?)

  • shalonndramarie

    I did not even know it was Domestic Abuse Month. I myself have never been a victim Physically but have been Verbally. I found out words can hurt just as much as a fist when it has anger and rage tossed in with them. I found out how to contradict those word and start speaking words related to God against them. It really helped me to get over it and not let it Penetrate my Soul and Plant a Seed. I also advise you that if you do get a jump start sign before it gets phiysical then turns deadly please take heed,this person has seriuos issues that you just simply cannot fix,because it’s way more complicated than they will ever let you know and no one deserves to be at the end of those such things. God Bless and Thank You all for Awareness. Peace

  • King Jason

    I can’t believe an article with some sense to it came out of the Griot. it is a needed conversation. Tamron is quite fetching by the way.