From Black Voices — Celebrities are notorious for falling in love fast, and falling out even quicker. Looking back at 2010, many of our favorite celebs rode love’s emotional rollercoaster all the way to a not-so-happy ending. All too often, these stars fell head over heels without taking into consideration the old saying, “haste makes waste”.
Many couples — such as Terius ‘The-Dream’ Nash and Christina Milian, Fantasiaand Antwaun Cook, and even Kanye West and Amber Rose — would have benefited from knowing when to pump the brakes. Most recently, singer Monica and L.A. Lakers player Shannon Brown are a classic example of this. Monica — who has already tatted Brown’s name on herself — became engaged to him after dating for only four months. After receiving a great deal of criticism from fans on Twitter, the ‘Everything to Me’ singer was quick to defend her decision.
“We realize people will have their opinions, but we know who we are & who’s we are,” she tweeted. “We pray 2 an awesome God 2gether….I’m realistic enough about life to know my journey has just begun. I don’t have anything else to say about it 2 people who judge. If u worked on urself u wouldn’t even see me.”
Celebrities aren’t the only victims to acting swiftly in love, many of us have been guilty of the same thing. When feelings are so fresh, attempting to apply logic almost always proves futile. We either find ourselves, like Monica, on our way to the alter and defending our actions, or snapping to our senses after realizing that things aren’t really what they appear to be.
Love has a way of causing us to lose our common sense. Sometimes we wind up making decisions based on what feels right versus what actually is right. Rule of thumb: If you think you are moving too fast ( it’s been less than six months), you probably are. Here are seven tell tale signs you’re rushing into love.
1. You’ve said “I know it’s been ___ days/weeks, but I feel like it’s been forever.”
Time does fly when you’re having fun, but real and deep love takes time to foster. Slow down!
2. You’ve moved the relationship to the next level and you haven’t introduced him/her to your family or friends.
Do you really expect to inform everyone about your ring and your man/lady at the same time?