Warning: This article may be TMI!

One hot, long weekend at my man’s place, I laid stretched out on his disheveled sheets debating how much longer I planned to lounge. Enjoying a quiet moment before preparing for Monday’s pending inevitability, the mood swiftly changed with this statement:

Are you going to do something about that?

Completely thrown off balance by my boo’s quizzical tone, I stared blankly at him to make sure he was referring to what I already knew.

“It’s getting out of control,” he said, affirming my suspicion. I looked down at my overgrown bikini line, feeling a little embarrassed. Not because he noticed, but because he pointed it out.

After the hairy situation at my love’s apartment I made an appointment at the waxer. Regardless of whether he said something or not, I planned to eventually make the trip. But the declaration of his disapproval made me think about the pressure black women go through just to groom the hair on our heads — let alone the hair on our bodies.

It wasn’t until my senior year of high school that I started grooming my bikini line. I had my first serious boyfriend and decided to become sexually active, so I wanted it to look nice. In doing so, I didn’t realize I was adding another item to my list of hair styling concerns. During my sophomore year in college — out of pure curiosity — I tried my first bikini wax. After that, I ditched my razor forever for the smoother and long-lasting results. I thought a few uncomfortable minutes were a small price to pay for beauty.

Award winning actress Mo’ Nique, started a major debate when she decided to reveal her hairy legs at the 2010 Golden Globes. It seemed that the hair on her legs overshadowed her amazing win at the awards ceremony that evening. When a woman chooses not to shave, wax, tweeze, or Nair her body hair should this be considered a poor grooming habit or a choice? Mo’ Nique explained her reasons for not shaving are based on convenience.

I must show America what a real leg looks like … because it’s too much in the morning, every morning, to shave, to cut, you got Band-Aids, baby. — Mo’ Nique

Later, she also stated “hairy legs are a black woman thing.”

Since a full bikini wax includes the legs, it made me wonder:

Is an untamed bikini line a black woman thing?

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  • Alexandra

    Well for some who say some women do it for men, I disagree. I’m not sexually active, and I trim. I don’t think I could ever leave it bald though. I only wax and close-shave my armpits. I prefer a hairless pit, cause I like to wear tank and tube tops for the summer. I stop waxing when warm season is over and just do a simple shave. Or sometimes not at all….

    Monique may be right about the leg shaving thing. I don’t shave my legs either; but they are naturally hairless.

    There’s a line to draw in conformity. We’re all unnatural pretty much.
    Hair is meant to grow under your arms, on and near your genitals, on your arms, head, face and so forth. If someone doesn’t like that fact, they can do as they please.

    I also think your boyfriend was kinda rude to tell you that. But I hope you told him to shave his hairy balls.

  • Bronze

    I’ve been getting a bikini wax since I was 16 so I’ve never had a complaint from a man. But that Mo’nique thing burned me up cause she made a huge generalization about black women vanity habits. Just because you don’t do it…does not mean that I don’t do it.

    On the rare occasion that I do see a black chic at the beach who hasn’t had a trim, I can safely assume she in not from Cali. What you do with your bikini line is your business but you will face humiliation and public scorn if you it shows in public.

    • Alexandra

      I notice in some of your comments you do the same thing.
      You seem to bring Black women into your comments and make generalizations. What they do, what they don’t do, what they should do, etc; it’s no different to me than what Monique said.

    • Bronze

      How unfortunate.

  • Mmkay

    It is because of porn! & Men that are insistent, watch enough porn for them to have the balls to ask the woman they are with to change it. & white porn that is. Black hair grows in a lot differently than other races. We have curly hair. In turn, curly pubes. I personally think a bare Vag with ingrown hair bumps and an increased chance for infection would be less attractive than a woman who is confident in her body, with pubic hair and no ingrowns. To each their own. But many are doing that to compete with a porn standard.