Last week Wiz Khalifa stopped by MTV’s RapFix Live to discuss his music. Instead of just sticking to the script and talking about his smash album and cult-like following, the topic turned to his very-public relationship with Amber Rose.
Hip-hop isn’t known for being for being pro-monogamy. Sure, it has its classic love songs—Meth and Mary’s “You’re All I Need” comes to mind—but generally, rap espouses a “bros over hoes” mentality. So imagine my surprise, and delight, when one of rap’s “it” boys was not only comfortable talking about his relationship but also talked openly about what exactly he loves about his woman.
After I peeped the clip on the Rap Radar site, I quickly scanned the comments. Even though I already knew what was coming—pure foolishness—I decided to look anyway.
As I suspected, many of the readers who dropped comments, and were overwhelmingly male—had a lot to say about Wiz and Amber’s relationship.
“Sloppy seconds or fifths for this bitch nigga.All the fine ass women out there at the mall,clubs,shit anywhere and he in love with that bald headed hoe?”
“LMAO wiz lost. It’s okay to get sloppy seconds but to wife her? where’s the Taylor’s? get cha boi.”
“wiz is a pussy bitch”
“SLOPPY SECONDS KANYE SMASHED THAT SHIT!!!!”
I could go on, but I think you get the picture.
Although there were a few who stepped up gave Wiz props for being in love, the overwhelming majority of the comments centered around negativity—directed at love, at Amber, and at Wiz’s intelligence for falling in love with Kanye’s “sloppy seconds.”
Even with power couples like Jay-Z and Beyonce’ dominating the game (and seeing Jim Jones and his girl Chrissy ride for each other every week), rap fans—and I’d argue many young men—still hold fast to the “I don’t love them hoes” mentality.
Despite our culture’s dysfunctional ideas of love, however, seeing Wiz and Amber discuss their relationship without fear or embarrassment was like a breath of fresh air.
What do you think? Why do some young people have such a hard time admitting to being in love?