Halle Berry, Halle Berry.
The actress is known as a bombshell talent whose successful career has risen seemingly in contrast to the trajectory of her love life. After getting through the roughest part of a very public custody dispute with her ex-boyfriend Gabriel Aubrey over their daughter Nahla, the star has returned to her work.
Though she has been busy filming the upcoming “New Year’s Eve”, Halle has been taking time to reflect over her love woes. This week in an interview with The Sun, the actress spoke on her current thoughts on her past relationships. In the interview, Halle spills what she wishes she had known about love at 18:
“I WISH I had known then that I was not the marrying kind. It would have saved me a lot of time, heartache and grief over the years.”
Halle goes on to say:
“I made all the wrong choices when it came to love. I have been an idiot. But, now, it is like a gift to myself – seeing more clearly and making better decisions. One thing was unavoidable. My father left us when I was young and that did affect my life. If I had a good father in my life, growing up, then I do not think I would have made the mistakes I made. I would not have been lost in love. I would have had a good role model and known what to look for. As it is, I had to find out about marriage from the men I’ve married. I have done it twice and I am not going to do it again. The traditional form of marriage is not for me.”
In the interview Halle says that after her marriage to Yankee David Justice ended in divorce, she was unsure she would ever love again. But Eric Benet swept her off her feet and the actress says thinking he “really loved me…I said ‘yes’ to his proposal.”
Hearing Halle speak on her love life always intrigues me. Her reflections can seem to reinforce those who say the actress is really the black Jennifer Aniston- hugely successful professionally with an unfortunate track record in love. But while she has had a tough relationship with love, Halle says her experiences have taught her who she is come what may. Telling The Sun what else she wished the young Halle had known, the actress said:
“When you are 18, you think that you will stop making mistakes in the future. It doesn’t stop happening – unless you make it stop…I over-compensated and became an over-achiever, to prove I was good enough and smart enough. I now use life’s experiences to feel more powerful, without trying to over-compensate. I can enjoy all facets of what I am – the sexy side, the strong side, the intellectual side, the mothering side, the funny side… and the vulnerable side.”
What’s your take on Halle’s thoughts on not being “the marrying kind”? Is there really such a thing? Tell us what you think Clutchettes- share your thoughts!