Imagine you’re out with someone you’ve just met and you totally click. The conversation flows easily, the two of you laugh at the same jokes, engage in intense conversation about the news of the day, and when it’s time to go home…neither one of you wants to leave.
The whole scene seems like it was ripped from a popular romantic comedy or chick flick—just perfect.
Until…something happens that wrecks the whole vibe and turns you totally off to that person.
Last week I wrote about a man I met who—before we could even go out on our scheduled lunch (first) date–began talking about giving me oral sex. A complete turn off. Other times, I’ve hung out with new girlfriends who I thought could become potential running buddies when they’ve made some asinine comment about using men (and women) to get cash.
Each of these experiences took me from hopeful and excited about meeting someone new, to saying, “Oh hell nah, this person isn’t for me” in a matter of seconds.
Although I’m not one of those new agey-type folks, there is much to be said about maintaining a certain type of vibe. And once something happens that wrecks the natural flow and ease of things—I’m completely turned off to the situation.
Perhaps I’m too quick to dismiss folks who rub me the wrong way, but I just can’t seem to get past things that turn me off to others I barely know. Even if I try to continue getting to know them, in the back of my mind I’m still thinking about what they said or did to make me give them the side-eye.
So Clutchettes and Gents…when you’re getting to know someone, what turns you off?
Let’s talk about it!