Not too long ago, I tuned into a talk radio show. The topic was about a Manitoba judge who had let a man off the hook for rape because the victim was flirtatious and dressed provocatively, which supposedly lead the rapist to believe that sex was on the menu that ill fated night. The judge also excused the man’s conduct by dubbing him a “Clumsy Don Juan.” After the host presented the topic, he encouraged listeners to call in and voice their opinion.

This was the nature of many of the calls made:

“Well, if you’ve got a hundred dollar bill hanging out of your back pocket, don’t be surprised if it goes missing.”

“We’re animals…we can’t control ourselves. If a woman wants to walk around in a tube top, what do you expect?”

“Men are visual.”

Now, call me naive, but I was convinced that the ridiculous notion that a woman’s choice of clothing could provoke or prevent sexual assault was gone for good. Unfortunately, much like Mohawks and colored leggings, this foolish belief has made a comeback.

I wondered why. After all, it’s 2011,and we all should know better. Whatever happened to “No Means No! “? –no matter how short or tight the skirt may be?

I suppose what I found most disturbing was the ease with which the callers–overwhelmingly male–justified the rapist’s actions. According to those Neanderthals, the blame lies with women. In their little minds, if only women dressed modestly, men would refrain from violating them. It’s as simple as that.

Had I called in, my response to those poor excuses for men would have been, in the words of Saturday Night Lives’ beloved character, Church lady,  “How convenient!”

Men have always been regarded as the superior gender. They’re, allegedly, far more logical, goal oriented and stronger; both mentally and physically. Sounds like a pretty solid group, n’est ce pas? Why, then, would a scantily clad woman have the ability to reduce such an exceptional bunch into a pack of wolves?

If this theory had any merit, why aren’t topless dancers being raped onstage? Are patrons better equipped to restrain their “animalistic tendencies” in the midst of security?

Once more, with feeling, folks – how convenient!

The truth of the matter is women are sexually assaulted in the U.S every two minutes because men choose to sexually assault women. Point blank. The victim’s style of dress, whether it may be similar to Amber Rose or Michelle Obama’s, is irrelevant.

My only hope is that those who wish to sexually assault women due to their lack of  “self-control” and the victim’s attire get put away for life and share a cell with a 6’9″ monster named Bubba who suffers from the same affliction.

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  • Mr. Man

    First of all just let me say this, anyone who Rapes someone should be destroyed, period..This just goes without saying.

    Some of you women here though (and so so many in todays society) come across a bit jaded by a women lib attitude, some are failing to discern a hard reality.
    The world we live in is not a pretty place, its ugly, nasty and monstrous as its chalk full of animalistic behaving men & women, sickos and preditors of all sorts.
    These don’t give a rats crack about rights and wrongs, and they surely don’t care about respecting your right to express your sensuality in public. Its called having common sense, thinking ability, employing discernment, practical wisdom. Just because we have a right to do something doesn’t always mean its advantageous. Something that my wife and I are constantly teaching our two daughters.

  • char

    Men are going to rape women no matter what they wear, if it’s short or long, if it’s blue or pink, as long as they are women they will be looking at her like a piece of meat. Every man regardless of who he is in the community, his background, his education has the ability to become less than human and take from a woman what is her right to give.

    Do we let thieves off the hook even if there is PROOF just because someone left their house unlocked, their credit card on the desk, their money sitting out in the open? no. so why should we blame the victim of a rape?

    I’m a respectable woman, I mostly wear a tshirt and jeans but there are times when I want to dress up and that might mean a shorter dress, higher heels and makeup but should that mean I should be punished? Even if my version of dress up is more conservative than another woman’s the fact remains what i’m wearing is not a permission slip for sex. let my mouth say yes; not my clothes.

    • bob

      no we do not let theives off the hook but we do call the victims stupid if you leave in the hood and leave your door unlocked all the time your dumb and it can clearly be seen why you were robed it is wrong for people to rob you but, not everyone thinks robbing is wrong.

  • AfriqSheneneh


    I believe you really need to understand that my sexual organs are inside of me. Even my vagina, boo….all neat and tucked away

    However my breasts and my ass….while they may attract your attention and inspire sexual urges, are not my sex by any means.

    Next time you, on a hot philly day, decide to take off your shirt exposing your nipples to the world consider how what you’re doin is no different from when I decide I’mma let the girls out for the day.