It’s never been a thing that I’ve done well. And yet it’s a virtue that I am supposed to have. But if you don’t already posses it, can patience be learned?

This is the question I’ve struggled with for years and the one that, this week, seemed trapped between the corners of my mind.

I imagine patience is supposed to come with a matching feeling. Like those juniors section outfits that came on two-part hangers but had you feeling like the coolest person in fifth grade. Yes, that is how I think patience is supposed to come: hanging there with tranquility, peace and calm.

Sadly for me, I’ve never been too keen on matching two-pieces and my attempts at learning patience are never accompanied with the temperament that seems appropriate. If I’m patiently waiting- it’s usually more in the Eminem sense- with bitten nails and teetering on the brink of rage with the world. Not because I am angry with anyone but because I hate what comes with waiting.

Robert Redford once said, “It was the waiting that was the worst because the waiting gave you time to think off all the things you could have done.” My soul believes that quote the way my 5-year-old mind truly believed that Robert Redford was actually what Moses looked like in real life. It’s the waiting that makes patience harder and makes doubting creep and take nest in my head.

When it comes to patience, I’ve grown quite some way but not because I tried to learn. But because life has a way of deciding to teach you whether you wanted to come to class or not. I find that for women who are no good at patience, surrender is often our last resort. But often times like is just waiting on us to say, “Fine. It’s not in my hands,” before it give us what we want.

Today, remember the rewards of patience don’t reveal themselves when we achieve emotional perfection. Allow blessings to show up in your life by accepting your imperfections with humility and grace.

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  • MaryJohanna

    I believe patients can be learned. I’ve been traveling 50-90% of the time for my job and found patients came from waiting in the security check point lines at the airport. You learn to prepare yourself for a carefree process, but going through those lines time and time again has given me patients. You learn what you can and cannot control while doing the best you can to achieve the best results (efficiency in my case, lol). I’ve purposefully pulled this patience concept into other areas of my life. It takes work to get to a level where you are truly a calm & collected individual. It took me 2 years to get there…

  • MaryJohanna

    *Patience (sigh)

  • Isis

    I have no patience whatsoever. It does allow doubt to creep into your mind. Like what if you wait all this time and what you want to happen never does.

  • caramelgirl

    I am seriously trying to learn patience but it is truly a hard task. I am in a long distance relationship and i find myself in a perpetual state of “waiting” for when I can be with my partner. When we do have time, it is very blissful and he makes me feel like the happiest woman in the world, yet the periods of waiting can be very stressful.