Mark Twin once said, “Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.” Despite his advice, however, many of us live in fear of a myriad of things that keeps us from living the life we want.

Whether it’s the fear that pursing our passions will leave us broke, and struggling to make ends meet, or the fear that we’ll get rejected by the beautiful brotha at the bar, being afraid can stop you from what you want most.

Lately, I’ve been trying to confront my fears head on. For over a year (really longer) I have been wanting/dreaming about switching careers. Although I love certain aspects about my day job—my students, the stability, the benefits—it has become increasing clear that I’d much rather string together words than teach teenagers how to do it. So while I’ve been keeping a foot in both worlds—teaching and writing—the thing holding me back from jumping head first into following my passion has been fear (and the student loan money I owe Sallie Mae).

Pushing past your fears and self-doubts can be extremely difficult, but it’s also necessary if you want to stop wondering about what could be and start experiencing what is.

So, Clutchettes and Gents…what are you afraid of? What’s holding you back from living the life you want?

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  • lee

    I fear dying before my son becomes an adult.

  • Vanessa

    I fear not being able to do and see all that I want be for I die, dying alone, and invertebrates… the last one I know is weird but they freak me out!

  • Ms. Terious

    I fear that I’m never going to be the person I always wished that can be.
    I fear that I’m going to love someone that, in the end, won’t matter.
    I’m afraid that that I look unconfident and fearful.
    I’m afraid of failure.

    I’m afraid that in my dying days, I’ll look back and wish I did EVERYTHING differently.

  • a daughter of yemonya

    I choose not to fear anything. I stopped being fearful when I became a mother. I had no fear when I was young (I was born a risk taker and adventurer and if it didn’t work, I went on to something else or went at it a different way/approach) and then as I became older I learned it (fear) from others. I went through an amazing rites of passage and through that process and with age and birthing both of my youth at home without meds I gave fear the BOOT!! I didn’t want to pass that emotion or feeling to another generation. However, I do practice careful insight and caution, because I do not make decisions on my own…I listen to my ancestors, my spirit guides and how that information relates to my environment. Once I began to listen more and not worry or think about the outcome (BE DO HAVE) the fear melted away.

    • African Mami

      @ a daughter of yemonya,

      If ain’t too personal, could you please share the rites of passage you talk of. Quite interesting!

    • a daughter of yemonya

      @African Mami, it is my pleasure. Elder Paul Hill is the “founding father” if you will and here is the website. It is based out of Cleveland, Ohio and they hold the process in the woods. Please check out the website and the mini documentary: If you call ask for Brother Sekou Burton or Zulma Zabala-Burton and/or Elder Paul Hill (let them know you heard about them through Stacey in Birmingham, Alabama). Much Peace and love to you sistar!

  • a daughter of yemonya

    @African Mami (and whomever else is interested) this is a short docu written and produced by a young brother that I have had a pleasure of watching grow through the rites he is the son of Brother Sekou and Sister Zulma, his name is Malcolm, check it out: this is a program he put together while in high school before going to college: