We’ve all heard the phrase “size matters,” but typically when it’s used we are discussing men. Well, a new survey conducted by AskMen and Cosmopolitan found that half of the men surveyed would leave their partner if she gained weight.

Approximately 70, 000 men and women participated in the survey, which also asked about infidelity, paying for dates, digital infidelity, and what you’d like to change about your partner.

While half of the men surveyed said they’d ditch a partner who packed on extra pounds, only 20-percent of women admitted they’d do the same.

Although these results may be shocking (Or hurtful? I mean, what happened to unconditional love?), they aren’t new. Last month researchers at the University of Michigan found that both men and women were more satisfied with their marriage when the wife had a lower body mass index than her husband. Why? Researchers weren’t quite sure, but I’d wager it has a lot to do with how we are socialized. We are brought up with the notion that men are supposed to be the dominant, masculine ones, while women are supposed to be submissive and feminine. Femininity isn’t usually depicted with larger women. They are either seen as manly (muscular, strong, tough) or unattractive (overweight). Until recently there has been little in between.

Oh and just in case you weren’t worried about your weight enough, yet another survey conducted earlier this year found that women who carry around an extra 25 pounds or more earn less money–$13,847 to be exact—than their skinnier counterparts.

Well damn.

Before you start obsessive over your weight, however, researches for Dove, the soap giant, found that worrying too much about your weight can hurt your career. So I guess we’re damned if we do, and damned if we don’t.

With all of the conflicting reports, the mounting pressure for women to adhere to a specific standard of beauty, and our own insecurities, it’s easy to begin to feel overwhelmed. But don’t. As long as you’re happy, staying (or becoming) healthy, and working what you got, you’ll be fine.


What say you Clutchettes…would you leave a partner just because they gained weight? Sound off! 

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  • JanetFL

    Sunshine, So true. That happened to me on my 40th bday and I was only 20 pounds overweight. I want to add a few things about my situation and perspective which may ring true for a few women. 1) I loved my husband unconditionally with all his flaws and never knew that people could say their wedding vows and not mean them (forever until death do us part, really meant forever until fat do us part). It tooks years for me to realize that he never loved me the same way I loved him. It still hurts way deep down 20 years later.2) I tried very hard to keep my weight down for years but he only put me down and sabotaged me at every turn. I only weighed 135 (5’2″) and was a size 12.I agree that during this time I may have done things that hurt my metabolism trying so hard to be what he wanted all while he still lived with his unhealthy habits. He drank and overate and had a belly of his own, which I never minded because I was committed to him 3) In the end, he left saying that he wasn’t happy. He would be happy not being with me. Now I understand that to mean that he didn’t love me, he loved what I did for him. When I stopped doing that (looking how he liked) then he stopped being happy and didnt want to be with me. I don’t think love even factored into it. In the end I have discovered that love means differenet things to different people so when choosing a partner you best make sure you know what it means to them.