It’s undeniable that sex permeates every aspect of our lives. From the clothes we wear and the images we see to the music we listen to and our interactions with the opposite sex, we are constantly exposed to sex. When it comes to relationships most people usually rank sex high on the list of things that could cause an otherwise happy union to go sour quick. Relationships have ended because of bad sex, not enough sex and even too much sex (yes this situation does exist), but would you end your relationship because you were having no sex? Before you answer, what if the reason you weren’t having sex was because the love of your life developed a debilitating disease or disability that prevented them from participating in the sex life the both of you once enjoyed? Would you still leave?
This month Laura Brashier, a 50-year-old cervical cancer survivor founded 2date4love.com. According to the website,
“2date4love is a dating site that enables people who cannot engage in sexual intercourse to meet and experience love, companionship and intimacy at its deepest level.”
Brashier recently sat down ABC’s Good Morning America and revealed that she was inspired to start the site when after being 37, single and diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer, she struggled with dating and intimacy after months of aggressive chemotherapy and radiation treatments destroyed her vaginal tissue, making sex painful. Bashier wasn’t having issues because she was a prude, bad in bed or had an STD, she was scared to date because sex is so important in a relationship that she was unsure if she could have one without it. She created the site so that people in similar situations wouldn’t have to live life alone and devoid of intimacy simply because they couldn’t find a partner willing to live without sex.
We would all like to think that we would stick it out “for better or for worse” with partners that we couldn’t connect with sexually. However, since most of us have never and probably will never experience this extreme, the sentiment is easier said than done. I’m sure we’ve all had our stretches of time where sex seemed like a long lost, distant 4th cousin twice removed, but if we were honest with ourselves, could any of us truly live like that forever?
Could you live in a sexless marriage? Would you be able to stay faithful? How important is sex to you in a relationship.