Earlier today, one of our favorite Philly girls, Jill Scott, had Twitter buzzing when she asked her followers if they’d ever consider being in an open relationship. The singer—whose latest album has been my summer dating soundtrack—admitted that she has been giving it some thought.
“What do you think about “open relationships? Been considering.
Many friends are making it work. Not sure if I’m that girl but not sure if I’m not. Sometimes there’s an understanding that nobody else gets.
I’m certain of what I want and deserve. Still so many marriages fail. Worth the questions. Worth the thought. For some it’s a turn on.”
After some pushback from her fans, Jill posed another question. How would you handle it if your partner cheated?
“Ok. Try This, the love of your life cheats and is honest about it. Your life with him/her is everything you want but monogamous. Do you stay?” she asked.
After a fan warned that those seeking open relationships should just “stay single” and not look to cheat, Jill said, while she isn’t looking to cheat, she’s “not trippin on it either.”
Apparently some of Jill’s fans weren’t the only ones who weren’t feeling the “open relationship” discussion. Former TLC member, Chili, tweeted to Illy Jilly:
“I’m about to call you cuz you can’t be in nobody’s OPEN relationships!! Talk about a horrible situation!!! So answer your phone!!”
Chili also insisted that women who are involved in open relationships are merely doing so to “please their wack ass boyfriend!”
While I’m sure some women who find themselves in open relationships do so because they want to please their mate, others do not. The thought of women being comfortable and in charge of her sexuality has scared some, so it’s no wonder that many aren’t able to understand why a woman would want to “share” her partner or herself with others while still maintaining a relationship.
Even though open relationships may not be my thing, I don’t knock or judge others for their choices. Everything isn’t always about “keeping a man,” sometimes it’s about a woman enjoying herself and getting hers.
But what about you Clutchettes and Gents…could you have an open relationship?
Let’s talk about it!
*Hat tip to Necole Bitchie.