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Orlando Magic center, Dwight Howard, sat down with Esquire to talk about the importance of fatherhood and that mothers are to blame for why NBA fathers don’t get to spend more time with their children. It’s funny to me how Howard placed a gag order on the mother of his son, Royce Reed, yet he can speak freely about his past and present relationship with her. It still boggles my mind as to how she remained on “Basketball Wives” when she wasn’t able to talk about her relationship with Howard. But I digress. Here is what Howard had to say about being a dad:

Esquire: I know it’s a subject you haven’t wanted to talk about publicly, but is fatherhood a part of your life?

DH: It’s very important. Hopefully me and my son’s mom will come to a better agreement for my son. When I do see him, we have the best time in the world. He acts just like me. He tries to run like me. He looks back and smiles like me. Fatherhood is great and it will get better. He’s young. He’s gonna need his father in his life. People say you don’t need a father to be successful. I take offense to that. I had an argument with my mom about Father’s Day and why it’s not celebrated like Mother’s Day.

Esquire: I’ve been around the NBA enough as a writer to see the women who would give anything just to get impregnated. And I’ve seen the men who didn’t care how many kids they had in how many different places, just as long as they had someone to f**k on the road. Pardon my French.

DH: I understand. With some of my teammates, they try so hard to be around their kid, and then the mother of their child makes it so hard. A lot of guys just say, “I’m not gonna deal with it.”

Esquire: It’s always the kids who pay the price.

DH: I would never, ever desert my child. A lot of my friends didn’t have fathers growing up, and they were very upset that their fathers weren’t around. I was lucky to have mine around.

Do you agree with fathers saying, “I’m not gonna deal with it,” when it comes to seeing their children because the mothers make it hard or should they fight as hard as possible to spend time with their kids?

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  • Kit

    I don’t understand why a mother would intentionally want to stop her child from having access to their father, especially if he doesn’t pose a risk to the child. No matter how much bad feeling they have between each other, the needs of the child should always be the priority.

    That said: I don’t agree with the ‘I’m not gonna deal with it’ attitude. If a father loves his child, he will deal with whatever kind of annoying, frustrating, dramatic, time-consuming hurdles that come his way to get access to the child. The ‘I’m not gonna deal with it’ attitude is not a viable attitude to have once you have laid down with someone and created life with them.

  • What these dudes are going to have to start doing is loading up a canister full of sprem storing it in a sperm bank and get themselves fixed. Life would be easier that way if thaey cant control themselves.

  • secret ninja

    Dwight, please sit down. he knew what the deal was and what kind of woman she was. men are just as responsible as women are when it comes to choosing who they are going to be with and the plight of multiple baby mamas/daddies. there are red flags that show up at some point in the relationship, nobody becomes vindictive over night. as was mentioned, it’s interesting how he has a gag order on Royce but he can say whatever he wants, i have feeling he’s not telling the whole story.

    it’s funny to me how some men are quick to say that their now ex is crazy. she wasn’t crazy when you were between her legs and if she was, what does that make you?

    • SAA

      BASICALLY!! I’m always hesitant when a person refers to their ex as crazy and the hatred/ vindictiveness definitely doesn’t start overnight. I honestly do believe all women have “crazy” in them but its about a particular thing- when someone is full batshit crazy, that shows itself very quickly and if you decide to stay then you are just as, if not more crazy, than they are.