No. It’s not just another trivializing probe into the complex love lives of African American women. The question of what Black women truly think about love and marriage is actually a call for participants by writer/intellectual, Tami Winfrey Harris. As so eloquently written in her blog WhatTamiSaid, Harris is working on a project that contrasts
“the authentic experiences of African American women with the tragic common narrative about black women and marriage–a narrative that narrows lives, turns black female successes into failures and unfairly burdens us alone with responsibility for the success of black male/female relationships, black families and the black community.”
Tami hopes her findings will result in a published book. “The way our society talks about black women and marriage–from the daily paper to the pulpit to movies and self-help books–is flawed, sexist and damaging. When black women tell their own stories, a more thoughtful truth emerges.” Rather than trying to scrub away the flaws, Tami Winfrey Harris seeks to paint a more genuine, compassionate picture.
To that end, this sista would like to interview other sistas of all ages, backgrounds, geographic locations and experiences. Harris wants to highlight “the lives of women often erased in discussions of the Black marriage rate,” such as married women, divorced women, women who don’t wish to marry, lesbian women, women in interracial relationships.
“Beyond the ABC specials, ‘think like a man’ romantic advice tomes and panic-inducing women’s magazine articles, exist the real stories of black women—too often told from another perspective and voice. Everyone is talking about Black women and marriage. I want to talk back.”
Interested? Know anyone who might be? Head on over to Tami’s blog to lean more about the study and how one can participate.