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Ok ladies and gents, this may or may not be new to you, but you need to know the social media signs that he/she just isn’t that into you. I am sure I am not alone with having a friend who saw something disturbing on Facebook or another  social media platform that set off alarms that something wasn’t right with their man/woman. In most cases, the suspitions were correct and the relationship ended soon after the signs were noticed. In an effort to make sure that you don’t get caught out there, here are some social media red flags you should look out for:

They un-tag themselves from pictures of the two of you together looking like a couple

This is definitely a huge red flag! I am yet to see a couple who is happy to claim each other make sure that there are no tagged pictures of them with their lady/man on their page. If they insist on un-tagging themselves from pictures that show you two spending time as a couple, some questions need to be asked.

You have that you’re “in a relationship” and they still have “single” or no status at all

This can and can’t be a red flag and here’s why. It is a red flag if your significant other is on social media a lot and changes things on their pages frequently, except their relationship status. Another red flag is when you request to say you are “in a relationship with” that person and they refuse to accept your invitation. Unless the two have agreed to keep their relationship a secret, most refuse to change their status because they don’t want others or a specific someone to know they are in a relationship.

They won’t accept your friend request

I don’t know many couples who aren’t friends on Facebook or following each other on Twitter. The main reason somone doesn’t want their significant other to be their friend on social media is the same reason a lot of people won’t friend their parents: they don’t want that person to see the things they say or conversations they indulge in on social media. Some people claim they are a different person on the internet as opposed to how they are in person (blank stare). Personally I think if you are in a relationship with somone you should know ALL their sides. If they want to hide their “social media selves” from you, then you need to ask yourself if you really know the person you are with.

They delete affectionate comments you post on their page

The alarms should go off here. If all affectionate posts such as, “I love you,” “thinking of you” or “can’t wait to see you” get deleted off of your significant other’s page, I say run for the hills. 10 times ouf of 10, your posts get deleted because you are a secret or the person doesn’t want their cover blown if they are dealing with somone else who is on their page. I have never heard valid reasons to delete such posts, if you have let me know.

All in all, make sure that the person that you are with is as crazy about you in public as they appear to be in private. Social media doesn’t lie.

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  • CaliDreaming86

    If I were dating someone I would never put it on Facebook or any other social networking site. I am against people making their relationship so public unless they are married. Even then it should be kept to a minimum.

    The signs above are also how an outside person can tell a relationship has ended.

    [Back in 2006 when I first started taking classes at the community college there was this guy who wanted to date me. I had no interest in him, but for whatever reason I decided to be different and give him a chance. We had only known each other for a few days when he asked me if he could take a picture with me and put it on Facebook. I immediately told him no. Needless to say, things never went anywhere.]

    • Justina

      LOL…Reminds me of the time a guy told me I was rude because I didn’t facebook. When he asked me why I said because I don’t have any desire to share my life with the world. Apparently, he found that remark offensive. Whateva!

  • African Mami

    Disagree with this article. When I was on Facebook, my significant other was never allowed to leave anything affectionate on my wall (is it still there?). We never indicated we were in a relationship, nor were their photos of us together. It’s not because I wasn’t into him. It’s because a relationship to me is a private affair and not a PSA for others.
    By the way, I ain’t knocking anybody for dedicating each and every waking status to her boo, and all their albums to them….do you!

    • MissMoj

      Agreed. Or at least make sure you’ve been with the person long enough to build a strong foundation in your reltionship before announcing it on facebook.

  • Pilot

    Would never have an account, even iin a million years. Too much narcissim and self-absorption on display. I’m not interested in that much “sharing”, whether it’s coming from my side, or someone else’s.

    • SAA

      ugh tell me about it. I don’t get the need for people to update their profile pics everyday or status every little detail going on in their life. The worst to me are the “narcassists for no reason”- like the overweight greasy girl who takes a mirror pic of herself everyday and captions it as “I’m conceited, I got a reason” along with the aspiring wanna-be model or the guy who spams your wall to check out his mix-tape. I truly despise fb in case you couldnt tell lol

    • Trini

      @Pilot

      I also completely agree with your comment! FB is like walking the halls of my high school all over again….NO THANK YOU! The amount of childish foolishness on there is unbearable. I just cant!

      @SAA

      “The worst to me are the “narcassists for no reason”- like the overweight greasy girl who takes a mirror pic of herself everyday and captions it as “I’m conceited, I got a reason””

      BAAHAHAAA!!!

      Greasy?!! LOL!!!

  • secret ninja

    i don’t have a fb, and i don’t think i want to date anyone who has one either. too much sharing. fb is like a mini reality show, people become mini celebrities in their own little world, they become addicted to fb, hoping someone left a comment on their page or on a picture of them doing “ballershit!!!!!”
    no, i can’t do it.

  • Lulu

    100% depends on how much value the person puts on facebook. I’m on facebook, i don’t have pics, noone can see my wall comments but me and I don’t have a relationship status. I don’t even read others’ statuses and login like once a month. It means absolutely nothing to me and this could be the case with a guy.

    Even if the guy I was with was obsessed with facebook and did all these things, I wouldn’t know and wouldn’t care that much. I’d probably (OK HOPEFULLY) have figured that he wasn’t into me through face to face interaction, his actions…and other things that raise red flags.