Ashton Kutcher and wife Demi Moore are over. While many have seen it coming for months—especially in the wake of Ashton’s alleged jump-off coming forward—many are still sad to see such a cute couple fall victim to the harsh realities of divorce.
Although I didn’t keep track of all of the sordid details of their split, I did notice a few takeaways that might be able to help the rest of us avoid meeting the same unfortunate fate.
So, what CAN we learn from Ashton and Demi’s break-up?
I’m glad you asked.
Keep your business out the tweets: I’ve written about this before; but taking your love life online is a mixed bag. Sure, you want to share the good times—the wonderful gift your boo thang gave you or the date that had you feeling over-the-moon—but when things go wrong, airing out your spats online is never a good look. Ashton and Demi allowed the world into their relationship by tweeting things they could have easily told each other. They wanted to brag and share their love with the world, but they also invited the public into their private relationship. No bueno. As much as you love your partner, keep your social media life and your love life separate…unless you want folks all up in your business.
Don’t cheat, but if you do, have the decency to be discreet. Let’s face it. Cheating happens. While we’d all like our partner to stay faithful, both men and women often find themselves in compromising situations. Although cheating is one of the fastest ways to kill a relationship, some couples do recover from it. However, if you’re like Ashton and pictures of you and your jump-off are plastered all over the blogs (or Facebook, or text messages) and you have the other man/woman telling their side of the story, you can pretty much hang it up. It’s dunzo. Cheating is horrible, but no one wants to be publically humiliated. There’s no coming back from that.
Give it time and don’t hold a grudge. Relationships aren’t for the faint of heart. When things are good we are floating on Cloud 9, but at the first sign of adversity, some folks don’t know how to handle it. Good, lasting relationships will have ups and downs. If your partner does something that upsets you, you have options. You can give it time and try to work it out. But in the event that you can’t get past the rift, holding a grudge—even after the relationship is over—does little to help you move on. Ashton tweeted about the end of his marriage—and although he’s quite possibly a douche for effin up their marriage—at least he didn’t spout any nasty words on his way out. AK simply told the world, “I will forever cherish the time I spent with Demi.” Way to keep it classy.
What are some other lessons we can learn from Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore’s break-up?