Contentious conversations surrounding reproductive rights ebb and flow — at turns gaining national momentum, then sitting high on the party-pandering shelf to pull out during a rainy election cycle. Through it all, the pivotal perspective of one person seems to be willfully ignored: The Father.

When a mother decides that abortion is her only option, with or without the father’s consent, she is legally able to do so. The Madonna/Whore Complex which inundates our society typically places both accolades and accountability squarely on the shoulders of the mother because the womb is where the fetus develops. The responsibilities of potential fathers are etched in stone in courtrooms across America, while their rights are eclipsed — exacerbating a judiciary imbalance that potentially undermines the father’s position by relegating him to sperm donor status.

This layered bias has been encouraged and accepted by society as a whole because the percentage of men who negate their responsibility to their children far outweighs those men left heartbroken over a partner’s abortion. Choosing instead to assert their reproductive freedom, and then just as swiftly disappear, absentee fathers contribute to some startling statistics. According to data compiled by Children: Our Ultimate Investment:

• 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
• 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
• 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes
• 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes
• 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
• 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
• 70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes.
• 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes.

With these statistics in mind, women should unequivocally control when they give birth, and the complete authority over our motherhood options—whether that entails childbirth, abortion or adoption—should never be questioned. The lack of male guidance is glaringly obvious and has proven to be detrimental for many youth in this country. From the club to the clinic, to the church to the cradle, men must be held equally accountable for pregnancy and the subsequent innocent lives that enter into the world.

There are no excuses.

There is, however, an interesting argument that simmers on the fringes of the national narrative regarding reproductive rights.

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  • Socially Maladjusted

    The discussion rolls on but it seems the needles stuck on limiting men’s “options” to pregnancy prevention. There seems to be strong opposition to giving men any options that go beyond that.

    I think the reasons for this are obvious, giving men a walk away option would in one fell swoop eliminate a very useful scape goat and mechanism of control used against poor men by all kinds of hostile parties.

    1) child support default gives the authorities another excuse to jail “disposable” sub groups of the male population eg poor & ethnic minority men. That aint conspiracy theory, it’s self evident POLICY.

    2) for women the consequence of a walk away option for men would be to take away the “dead beat dad” shield that allows them to hide their own sexual irresponsibility and reccruit public sympathy by pretending to be victims of predatory men who get em pregnant and then abandon em.

    3) over the last 10 years or so a “Thug” (read working class black man) blaming culture has sprung up in the black community. Thug blamers are the black communities internal police force, made up of equal numbers of men and women from all class subsets within the BC. They all agree that poor black men and the things poor black men are alleged do, are the cause of all the problems among blacks.

    “Misogynistic rap”, don’t respect education, saggy pants, crime, and of course, out of wedlock pregnancies.

    In Thug blamer narrative, poor black men are the notorious poor choice who are the source of black women’s woes.

    Thugblamers are emotionally dependent on the Thug myth, because for them Thug sets a standard so low that everyone, even the stupidest nigros, can have someone to look down on.

    It’s black on black “at least I aint nigger” syndrome.
    WithoutThug to look down how would you show whitey that you’re that different nigro?

    kiss teet.

    It’s clear that poor black men will find little support in the black community for any proposal intended to alleviate their burdens, since the right wing, integrationist, bootstraps ‘take responsibility’ and let whitey and his BS system off the hook – elements have taken control of the dialogue in the BC.

    We’ll just have to wait for Thug to get his s hit together and equip and arm himself to deal with these menaces once and forever.

    Meesage to whitey.

    I want a jail cell next to one of these clowns when the mass incarceration gets more mass.

    • grandgryph


  • Phillygurl

    Now, I am going to bust up his conversation. How about no sex at all. Neither would have to worry about a child being conceived. Nobody deserves the privilege and trust for your physical well-being outside of your spouse ladies. I don’t care if you use 50 forms of birth control at once. You put you health and welfare in the hands of a man every time you lay down with him. I believe if I’m not worthy of a marriage comittment, you aint getting none of this.