I’ve been thinking and watching The War of the Roses a lot lately. It’s one of my favorite movies from when I was a kid and something about the clearly dysfunctional relationship between Barbara and Oliver (Kathleen Turner & Michael Douglas) always humored and captivated me. There is a line in the movie by Danny DeVito that always makes me stop and think…as a child I had no answer to it, and as an adult, I still don’t which is somewhat scary. Although many of us never ask ourselves out loud the question I’m about to pose, we do act the question out in our relationships. We’ve all been there, on one side or the other and no matter which side you’ve been on the emotional toll it can take is pretty rough. So ladies and gents in the words of Danny DeVito I ask you…..
“How do you hold on to someone that won’t stay and how to you get rid of someone who won’t go?”