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This morning, I saw that one of my favorite aritsts, Nas, is working with Chris Brown for Breezy’s upcoming album, Fortune. When I read the blurb about their collaboration, I couldn’t help but feel some type of way about it. Although I love (ok, LOVE) Nasir, supporting Brown still makes me a bit uneasy.

Let me say: I believe in second chances. I believe in a person’s ability to change and rise above their past mistakes (at least in theory). I mean, I’ve made my made fair share of mistakes and I hope they’re not still being held against me, but does this “second chance” notion apply to everyone in every situation?

While Chris Brown has indeed paid his debt to society as dictated by the court, every time I try to “forgive” him (and I know he doesn’t need my forgiveness), or rather forget “the incident,” something else happens to make me look at him¬†suspiciously. It’s like that dude from your past who treated you sideways who comes back and says, “Baby I won’t do it again.” The first time he says it, you believe him…then something else happens and you’re not so sure. That’s how I feel about Chris Brown.

I tweeted about my conflicted feelings about loving Nas’ music and possibly wanting to hear the new track, but not feeling comfortable supporting Chris Brown. The homie Bene Viera helped me put it into perspective when she reminded me that “forgiving” and “supporting” are two different things. So while I may listen to the track when its released, I won’t be buying Brown’s albums or laying down my cash for his shows anytime soon.

What do you think? Does everyone deserve a second, third, or fourth chance to get it right?

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  • Rogue Wan

    A man committed a violent crime, for which if he wasn’t famous, he would have received a custodial sentence. He has another two years of parole to serve.

    I am interested in the reasoning that “It was years ago” or “compared to so and so it really wasn’t that bad”. If a man beat you, bit you and left you unconscious in a car would you be so quick to let by-gones be by-gones? I ask this because it disturbs me that women in particular are so vehement that there should be no moral, as opposed to legal, accountability.

    As children we were all taught not to enact violence upon others and if we did we were censured. In this way we grow up having learned self control. Half hearted apologies of the “yeah, I did a bad thing but you have no idea what she’s like” type; followed by “I did my community service in double quick time what else do you want from me?” and my personal favourite “people shouldn’t keep asking my to explain my terrible behaviour” illustrate a breathtaking sense of entitlement. It is precisely the questioning of people’s behaviour that keeps most people from acting on their less desirable impulses.

    I believe in second chances: When the person understands the impact of what they have done and modifies their behaviour accordingly. If Chris Brown can make and promote his music while keeping his temper it will go a long way towards people allowing him to put the matter behind him.

  • Natalie B.

    I can’t support ANYONE that has such a flippant attitude towards their transgressions. Look dude, what you did was wrong, no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it. In our community we tend to demonize the women that are the victims of domestic abuse, and explain away the abhorent behavior of the perpetrator.

    Not cool.

    Did we see white folks prompting everyone to give OJ another chance after he was acquitted of killing his former wife? No, that’s just not because she was a white woman, but white people value white womanhood, PERIOD, and you would think that in a community where the overwhelming majority of households are headed by women that we would do the same, but sadly we don’t.

    It made me sick to my stomach to hear the NPR piece with so many of Chris Brown’s fans not only defending his actions, but voicing the opinion that he nothing wrong. What are we doing wrong when young women think this type of behavior is okay?

    So my answer is second chances should go to people that are actually contrite, not to those that are only are only apologizing for damage control.

  • nattygirldred

    Seriously I soooo understand how people feel about this. My mother was beat by 2 men in her life that I witnessed (both of whom she left immediately). But those men had mom’s and sister’s and nieces ( we hope they never beat any of them). And I will admit that in my life I (even as a woman) Have hit (beat) a man in an inappropriate way in anger during an argument. Many would say well I’m a woman and it doesn’t carry the same weight. But if I was a major star my career would not be OVER even if I gave that guy a black eye, bruises and lacerations and bloody scratches… because I’m a woman. Now Chris was barely a out of being a teenager when he did this. I work with kids… and he said his mom was hit by his father and he witnessed this like I did and he reacted… like I did. He paid way more than I did for his actions. Chris is uber talented, singer, dancer, graffiti artist. I don’t think we should give up on our youth.

    • nattygirldred

      However he does need to keep his temper in CHECK no matter what because that will prove that he hasn’t changed AT ALL and NO ONE should support that. And I also read in an interview that Rihanna has put all of that behind her and SHE WISHES THE BEST FOR CHRIS. ( I don’t think they will ever get together no matter what their FANS would like to see) Personally I would NEVER see him romantically if I was her EVER again. Well… I mean at least he didn’t piss on her… ;)

  • Jane

    Has Chris Brown hit his current girlfriend?
    Do you support:
    R. Kelly
    P. Diddy
    Charlie Sheen
    Jay Z
    Sean Connery
    -Misogynist lyrics/actions from any performer
    and many more….

    People are people and have to learn to become human. EVERYBODY deserves a second chance. That is what this life is about lessons in living.

  • Miss September

    Yes, everyone deserves a second chance. No one is perfect, most adults have made mistakes and even from a religious stand point GOD is merciful when you are sincere,
    As far as the Chris Brown situation , he made a mistake , it was most DEFINITELY WRONG he was at the time 20 years old but come on people let this boy live .
    He has continually apologized for his actions, on Larry King and other interviews.
    Yet, people still try to bring it up as if it happened yesterday. If Rihanna has moved on with her life so should the public. What happened was wrong, domestic abuse is never excusable, but how many twenty year old couples have a fight and the police get involved .the only difference with those people and CB and Rihanna is there famous. They live there life in a fishbowl, man again let this boy live and stop rehashing the same drama from like 3 years ago…..