When I was younger and *ahem* more innocent, kissing was the move. If I found myself with a little boyfriend I couldn’t count the seconds until we kissed, which was usually two seconds after we decided to be official. However now as an adult kissing is something that is more intimate for me. No it’s not sex or allowing him into my home, but it is still a very intimate show of affection that I can’t just have with any and everyone.

Many of my dates have respected my choice to not have loose lips, but lately I have encountered men who have straight up called me immature for “over thinking” the value of a kiss. Even some of my friends have teased me about holding out on kissing when I lost my tongue kissing virginity decades ago. But my kisses are worth more than gold and if a man truly respects me he’ll wait on my kisses. I mean if it’s ‘just a kiss’ then it shouldn’t be so hard to wait on it right? I don’t have a specific time limit, I’m not going the Steve Harvey route and waiting 90 days or some mess like that, but just until I feel comfortable enough with the person and the situation to give myself to them in that way. Besides, you can’t go around kissing folk all willy nilly, there are way too many germs in this world and I don’t know where his mouth has been…just saying.

How long did you wait to have your first kiss with a new man?

Like Us On Facebook Follow Us On Twitter
  • ScriptTease

    *** Excuse me if it sounds like I’m babbling ***

    I agree with the chemistry. If it’s there, on the first date, and we’re feeling each other. Go for it. But you better be careful because for me kissing is a turn on. Done correctly, it’s a form of foreplay, have the panties off in no time… but I digress.
    @ Jess, people are so quick to get in your draws these days. They just bypass the kissing all together. I love to kiss, but I refuse to kiss someone I’m not feeling. But I’m at a stage in my life, that I probably want kiss on the first date… maybe the second though… and I’m sorry I ain’t waiting 90 days to give up the cookie… don’t care what Steve says… I think 30 days is good enough.

  • bekah

    I’m a serial kisser. I’m not ashamed of it either. Lucky I have avoided all the major complications that can come from kissing all willy-nilly (knock on wood). But after hearing input on kissing from a friend (a narrative similar to the author’s) I am greatly reconsidering who I swap spit with in the future.

    To my defense however, I rather kiss someone than have sex with them (call me crazy). It holds me over, so to speak, until I decide If I want to take it to that level. If I don’t then all that was lost was a bit of saliva. A kiss sets the tone for how the sex will be, in my opinion. If you can’t do that right then how can I expect you to be good at working it out in other places?! I’m just saying.

    So instead if using kissing as a test, I’ve got to hold it with more emotional value.


  • Appletree

    I love kissing. Making out is so much fun. I dont kiss random dudes on the street. But I definitely will kiss on the first date. I’m such a kissing slut that I keep my friends with benefit person around simply because he likes to make out and it’s rare to find a guy that will do just that these days.