2011 is officially dunzo, and we’re still here.

As many people scrambled to find last minute plans and dates for New Year’s Eve, others spent the day trying to set goals and resolutions for the coming year. In between vows to finally get into shape, read the entire Bible (or Q’uran…or Torah), many people also decided that this year would be their final year alone.

The amount of Facebook statuses and tweets from single folks exclaiming that they were unhappily spending New Year’s Eve alone, although they hadn’t planned on it, were astounding. Some were pretty sad and lamented their single status, and others were slightly more hopeful as they tried to speak a boo into existence.

But as I read all of the “woe is me, I’m single!” statuses, I kept wondering…is being single really that bad? 

I mean, I get it. The holiday season can be tough on a single person, especially if their family is harping on their status OR if their friends are happily coupled. But if you ask me, New Years Eve shouldn’t be a time for emo status updates, but rather a hopeful celebration of the endless possibilities to come.

Instead of people dwelling on what they DON’T have, perhaps they should have been taking some time to reflect on what they DO have. Namely health, good sense (hopefully), and a whole lot of time and opportunity to make things happen.

I’ll admit, while it would have been nice to be hugged up with my steady ringing in the New Year, it didn’t exactly go down like that. But am I mad? No. Instead, I realize that I’m blessed to see yet another year and experience all that life has to offer.

So, while many of you feverishly add to your list of self-improvements for the year, remember to be the type of person you hope to attract.

If you want a man (or woman) who is a hard worker, ambitious, and has a killer body…aim to be that yourself. If you want a man who is well-cultured, well-traveled, and well-read…dust of your passport and hit the road!

Gone are the days in which we put things on pause while waiting on Mr. or Ms. Right to drop from the sky. Nah. Life is too short and there is far too much to see and do in this world to be sitting on the sidelines waiting to get into the game.

And trust me. Once you get out there and start living the life you want you’ll run across someone who shares your values, likes, and passion for life.

Are you living the life you want? 

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  • gmarie

    I agree with the advice in this article. Enjoy the life you have while you have it even if you’re only sharing it with yourself. However, on the same token I dont really see how someone “boo’d up” giving advice (or rather telling) to single people on how they should function or what they should want is any different from the stigma people attach to someone single giving advice to people in relationships on how to live. jussayin

    • Hey gmarie,

      Point of clarification…I’m also single :). I said it would have been NICE to be “boo’d up,” but at the moment, I’m not.


  • londongirl

    agreed totally with this article. however i can’t help but think that these “unhappy singles” are unhappy because they think (or have been made to think by others/romcoms) that the grass is greener on the other side. being single can be hard but so can being in a relationship, each situation brings its own set of problems. i always say live in the present and enjoy it, as the thing you may be complaining about now, may turn out to be the thing that you long for later

    • JaeBee

      ^^^Whenever someone tells me something like this, I always play the “would you rather trade your life for mine game”. Unless the person is in a seriously dangerous relationship (i.e. domestic violence) that they see no way of getting out of, MOST people would prefer to be in a relationship than to be single.

      When my couple’d up friends start moaning about their husbands/boyfriends and telling me that I’m lucky to be single I tell them they could divorce/break up with their husbands/boyfriends and then they could be like me. When my friends start moaning about their children I tell them they could always put the child up for adoption and then be like me. As of this day no one has taken me up on my suggestions because inevitably people prefer having those relationships to not having them. For that matter, I always point out that it’s incredibly insensitive for them to advise me that I’m better off without those relationships when they themselves can’t live without them. I see their line of thought as akin to someone who has an overabundance of food talking to a starving individual and telling them that they are better off starving because they don’t have to worry about gaining weight.

    • 48

      Yes! So on point JaeBee :) I think most of them just say that to be nice. For all the difficulties associated with relatively health relationships, it’s still better to have that support than one.