The fun part about Skype is feeling way more connected to your chat buddy than instant messenger or a phone call will allow — it’s almost like being inside of their home.

So when I was chatting with a friend the other night and she pulled out a pistol, I freaked out. It was justifiable and made sense in the situation, but guns rank at or near the top of things I’m afraid of. Let me explain.

My friend lives alone in the city and loves it. Like I do, she often worries about her safety as a single woman with nothing separating her from the crazies of the world but locks and a security system, but she has always insisted that she’s well-protected. Of course I tell myself the same thing and take any necessary precautions…what else is a girl to do?

That night, as we talked about this and that, some man was lurking outside of her window. He’d been there before, just hanging around, kind of peeping but making himself known. Keep in mind that people passing your window is sometimes part of living downtown, but nobody is supposed to be trying to communicate with you through it or be a nuisance. She waved the man off, yelled for him to go away, and put a stern look on her face. That didn’t work, so she pulled out her gun and pointed it at him. That still didn’t make him leave (she ended up calling the police, who escorted him away), but it scared me plenty.

My friend insisted that having one makes her feel safe and joked “relax, girl, even Madea keeps one in her purse!” But the idea of having a gun — an instrument made only for killing — has always disturbed me. Blame all of the PSAs from back in the day about how guns in the home are more likely to kill innocent people than ever be used for protection, or blame the fact that I don’t know how to handle and have never handled a gun. Whatever causes it, I have a hard time believing that my “guns are bad” mentality is keeping me from protecting myself.

Do you own a gun for protection? Would you keep one in your home?

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  • Greg

    Telling blacks they can’t own guns is a losing battle. But liberals are always testing…,

    FAST & FURIOUS!!!!


    Moving out of a LIBERAL birth state just to have unmitigated access to firearms (amongst other reasons). I miss my Boy Scout days of firing firearms and learning to safely weild them.

    EAT THAT Mayor Bloomberg!!!

  • I’ve never imagined owning a gun. But if I lived alone I’d get one. Of course I’d get the proper training and all that necessary stuff.

  • Tanstaafl2

    Getting a gun for protection is fine, but you have the responsibility to handle and store it safely and to know the laws regarding its use (your friend could have been arrested for threatening the man with her gun if she can’t convince the police/DA that she reasonably believed her life to be in danger).

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  • Constitutional Right


    1. Because You Own a Fire Extinguisher. Bad things happen. You can still call 911, but when seconds count, you need to act quickly to save your life and the life of those you love.

    2. Because Shooting Is An Olympic Sport. Shooting is an Olympic sport and the United States holds more gold medals than any other nation.

    3. Because Most Americans Own Guns. You’ll be in good company as a gun owner; nearly fifty percent of households in the U.S. own a firearm.

    4. Because You Respect The U.S. Constitution. Sometimes you won’t like it when people exercise fundamental freedoms protected by the Constitution, such as freedom of speech. But that simply doesn’t matter: The Supreme Court ruled that every person has a constitutional right to own guns. So respecting the Constitution means respecting the right of others to exercise those constitutional rights.

    5. Because You Are More Likely to Die By Falling. There were 613 fatal firearms accidents in 2007, one-half of one percent of all fatal accidents. You’re more likely to die by driving, poisoning, drowning or falling than by a gun accident.

    6. Because Guns Stop Burglars. Last year, the CDC estimated that Americans used guns about 498,000 times to frighten away intruders attempting to break into homes.

    7. Because Gun Bans Increase Murder Rates. After D.C. banned handguns in 1984, the average murder rate jumped 73 percent while the U.S. murder rate fell 11 percent.

    8. Because Guns Don’t Cause Murder. A New York Times study of 1,662 murders in the city found that 90 percent of the killers had criminal records. Murderers are not ordinary, law abiding adults. Instead, virtually all murderers are extremely aberrant individuals with life histories of violence, psychopatholoy, and substance abuse.

    9. Because Gun Owners Win Political Battles. Gun rights groups have donated $22 million in political campaigns over the last decade, while gun control groups gave $1.8 million.

    10. Because Ignorance is Dangerous. At current homicide rates, 1 in 240 Americans will be murdered this year. You need to know how to operate a tool that will immediately stop a threat and save your life and the life of those in your household.

    11. Because Guns Don’t Make Countries More Dangerous. Switzerland has one of the world’s highest gun ownership rates and also one of the lowest homicide rates. In contrast, the countries with the world’s worst homicide rates—South Africa, Columbia, Brazil, Mexico, Filipines, Taiwan—also prohibit law-abiding citizens from owning guns. Compare the 20 per 100,000 homicide rate in Russia, which bans guns, with the 2 per 100,000 rate in neighboring Poland. Compare gun-free Luxembourg’s 9 per 100,000 murder rate with Germany and France with rates of 0.93 and 1.65.

    12. Because Gun Control Laws Don’t Increase Safety. The U.S. National Academy of Sciences failed to identify even one gun control measure that had a statistically significant reduction in violent crime, suicide, or gun accidents. The Center for Disease Control reached the same conclusion in 2003.