Ok, I’ll admit it, I sometimes like a little drama-filled reality TV to serve as background noise for my nights. While I don’t know what days and times many of these shows come on, if I happen to be flipping past the channel and see it, I’ll stop and watch.

Last night I caught a bit of VH1’s Couple Therapy which features feuding couples attempting to work out their issues and patch things up, and I was blown away with just how much these couples were willing to share on TV. As someone who has gone to therapy, I know how vulnerable you feel sharing your deepest hurts and secrets with your therapist, and I can’t imagine doing so on TV. But watching DMX (wo has struggled with substance abuse) and his wife Tashera argue about his rampant disrespect and infidelity was both surprising and completely enthralling.

Although the couple has been separated since 2005, they have yet to get divorced. And from the looks of things, they may be on their way to the lawyer’s office. For whatever reason, DMX and Tashera are attempting to work things out, but things got tense when she brought up his cheating ways.

His explanation? You knew what this was from the beginning.

During his profanity-laced rant, DMX says something I’ve heard from many men before: women don’t want the truth.

Unfortunately for his wife, DMX tells her that he’s going to sleep with as many women as he wants “until his d*ck falls off” and there’s nothing she can do to change that. Tashera, who I hope is only on this show for a check, tells him that his comments are disrespectful and disregard her feelings, to which he asks, “How is that disregarding your feelings? I’m being honest.”

While his delivery was certainly crass, DMX has a point. He’s continually remained the same unfaithful guy from the beginning, so why now is his wife asking him to change?

I’ve seen this scene play out in real life countless times–from issues of cheating, to being unable to commit, to not wanting to have children–and it’s always left me shaking my head. If you knew what it was from the beginning, why overlook the truth?

When people get into relationships…can they really handle the difficult truths? Speak on it!


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  • Srenda

    DMX…ewwwwwwww….what an expression of manhood! (puke…) Well, it does say something that he’s on Couples Therapy, i guess…maybe he wants to revive his career more than his marriage…? Maybe he’s just pissed off (well he is pissed off) and venting and doesn’t mean it fully. He’s really saying nothing different than what many mainstream rappers say with their music (which I sometimes nod my head too) and perpetuating the stereotype of the virile, promiscuous, black male. Plus he’s pretty famous so he prolly gets booty thrown at him on the reg and that’s a lot of pressure especially when you have addiction issues as he does.

    In terms of getting with someone who we know from the get go isn’t great for us, well much easier said than done. Sounds like she thought he’d outgrow it and she probably really loves him. Love can be blinding and we can also love someone beyond their flaws as well. It’s complicated. As the Roots say, “sometimes relationships can get ill…” something like that.

  • Ms. Information

    After he tells me he is gonna sleep with whoever till his dick falls off (and it will eventually) what else is there to discuss? There are no apologies coming from his side…so screw it….

  • RL

    Even though Britni clearly siad this piece isn’t specific to cheating or to men, why are ya’ll stuck on that one example of cheating?

    Anyways, IMO people can handle the truth in relationships. Alot of people choose not to accept it (pretend they didn’t say it), other people choose not to disclose…and that’s where the problems come in. I think one of the most difficult truths is disclosing that you have a non-curable STD. Yet these people still have long, loving relationships with someone that decided to accept it. Telling someone who you really are in the beginning gives them the choice to stay and deal or leave. If its not something you just discovered, how can you be mad after you chose to stay? A common example is a partner who states that he/she does not want to be married for whatever reason, but the other partner who does continually thinks that person will change their mind.

  • Its best to tell the truth at the beginning, put all ur cards on the table and let the other decide wether they’ll stay, personally if i hear a truth that i can’t take i’ll quit…..except when committed in marriage. I’ll try my best to make it work….dats if he’s willing too.

  • Don’t mind me…I’m just here to see the usual cast of characters come in to use this part of the post to justify them wanting a White man. You know who they are- I don’t even have to say it…

    • QueenofNew

      LOL. You know the only thing white men lie about is not wanting a black woman. Hee hee!