Arizona Cardinals star Adrian Wilson wants to set the record straight. Although he was seen on the reality show Khloe & Lamar, dating Khloe’s bestie Malika Haqq, Wilson was recently featured on Essence.com renewing his vows with his wife of 10 years.
Confused? Yeah, me too.
Apparently, Wilson and Haqq met while he was separated from his wife and the two began dating. On Khloe & Lamar, Haqq seemed conflicted about dating a married man and even got into it with her married BFF about her relationship with Wilson. But, I guess that’s all old news and all is forgiven. Wilson and his wife Alicia decided to patch things up, and he even gave her “the wedding of her dreams” in Hawaii earlier this month to celebrate their strengthened union.
So…how did he get mixed up with another woman in the first place? Wilson explained it all to Essence.
ESSENCE.COM: Initially, what led you and Alicia to separate?
ADRIAN WILSON: I think we were kind of at a crossroads. Communication has always been a big component in our marriage, and somewhere along the line I think the communication just kind of fell apart. Once that happened, it seemed like it was just downhill from there. It was just a tough situation. I feel like it was something that we had to go through.
ESSENCE.COM: How bad were things between you?
WILSON: We were in the final stages of getting a divorce and everything being settled. She was ready to go her way, and I was going to go my way, but it wasn’t really something that we both wanted. We worked back to where we are.
ESSENCE.COM: How and when did you reconcile?
WILSON: We were separated for six months. That’s what everybody doesn’t understand. We were separated for a while. Getting back together was something that we had to talk about for a very long time. We talked some times all night long and into the next morning — talking about what needed to change. We realized they weren’t really big things; they were just things we needed to work on as a couple. There were things we needed to do in our marriage individually to make each other feel comfortable again and recognizing that I’m responsible for how she feels, and she’s responsible for how I feel. That communication was one of the main things that got us back to the point where we are now. I tell my wife more now than ever before, and she does the same for me.
ESSENCE.COM: What was it like watching yourself go on a date on reality TV and then dealing with the fallout from gossip sites and fans afterward?
WILSON: The whole episode attacked my character, and it was shown in a way that reflected the opposite of who I really am. But that’s cool; that’s what they do. Am I mad? Sure. But at the end of the day, that’s not what is most important to me. It’s no longer on my mind. I told my wife all about it and about everything that happened before the show even aired. She was well-prepared for everything — for the backlash and all that stuff. It wasn’t what it should have been, but that’s on me. It’s not on anyone else but me. But being able to get through that, and be where we are now, makes me think the experience helped us out tremendously. I think it made us stronger.
ESSENCE.COM: Looking back, did dating Malika help you better appreciate what you and Alicia have?
WILSON: I don’t think there’s anything like true love. I’ve known my wife since middle school. I don’t think there’s anything stronger than knowing the other person the way we know each other. My wife did her thing; I did my thing. We were apart. Whatever. It was never really about any other person, it was about us individually. We were able to come back together and make it work, and that was the most important thing for us. The love that we’ve always had for each other is still there, and that’s a beautiful thing. That love is never gonna break.
On the surface it seems bad, real bad. But if what Wilson says about he and his wife working through their troubles to come out stronger on the other side is true–I’m all for it.
What many don’t understand is that relationships and marriages take work. These days at the first sign of trouble, people pack their ish and go. If Wilson and his wife Alicia have fixed their issues, patched things up, and are happy…good for them.
What do you think?