“I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else’s whim or to someone else’s ignorance.” – bell hooks
Limiting yourself and allowing yourself to be limited by other people’s definitions or expectations of you is not only constricting, but can be completely frustrating. As black women, many times we feel boxed in by what other folks–black and non-black–think of us. We operate in the world–not totally as ourselves–but in a way that attempts to minimize the stereotype. We try not to be too loud, or brash, or attitudinal. Or we may even incorporate some of the markings of a limited definition of blackness just to fit in. Either way, we lose.
Going forward, make a promise to yourself to live life on your own terms. Live it loud, find pleasure in it, do what you want to do. Don’t narrow yourselves down, Clutchettes. Live large!