Like it or not, dating has gone digital. With so much of our time spent on social media, it’s only natural for some of us to use the web to expand our dating pool like we’ve used Twitter and Facebook to widen our social and professional circles. But for those women enterprising enough to use dating sites to meet a potential boo, there are a few things that can be a complete downer.

Since experimenting with dating websites last year, I noticed a few things men did that quickly turned a message or wink from cute guy into a complete turn-off. Profiles are key, and aside from having a picture (I mean…why wouldn’t you have a picture on a dating site?), there are three things that I’ve noticed that have been utter fails.

Shall we take a look?

The “Female” Disclaimers

There’s nothing that will make me click off of a profile faster than a man who begins by saying he doesn’t want any “females” with bad attitudes, hoodrat behaviors, gold diggers, fakers, liars, and divas. While he may think he’s warning the “bad” ones to stay away, this bit of info tells me dude has had his share of shady women, which makes me question judgment. If his last five girlfriends have all been ratchet, clearly he’s projecting something that keeps attracting those types of women. And a man with extensive past dating drama is not the move.

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  • BFDuster

    Hmm… my list?

    I don’t want anyone who’s religious unless their religion happens to not be of Abrahamic origin. I can accept Wiccans, Pagans, Taoists, Shintoists, etc. because they are likely going to be chill and to each their own.

    I don’t like bad spelling and bad grammar. Sure, I can tolerate a little grammar fail because we’re not all perfect, but if I can’t understand what you’re saying, it’s over even before it began.

    Trophy hunters. I can’t stand (and this is something I came across from men specifically on dating sites) people who talk about how good I would look on/in/next to their car/arm/etc… ugh.

    I don’t like “done-up” pictures. If I’m not wearing makeup and dress clothes for any of my pictures, it because I want you to see the real me. Guess what I don’t want to see? A fake you. This goes doubly for photo shopped pictures.

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  • Ashley

    The worst turn-off for me is a bad attitude or an insult. Seriously. I’ve seen a lot of dating profiles that say stuff like, “I don’t know why I’m doing this,” “Trying this one more time,” “This website sux,” or “This site has too many dumbass girls” << No lie, saw that exact one once. Why in the f*** would a guy think somebody would want to talk to them after they read that? Btw, all of those things make a guy seem desperate. Just saying.

    Look. I have ENOUGH drama in my life. So naturally, I'm not going to talk to somebody who looks (A) like a drama king, (B) like he ha enormous baggage or anger about the past, (C) like he resents women, especially the popular or pretty ones, or (D) like he'd harass me or bully me if things didn't go just right. Forget that. I don't have the time or energy to spend on that.

    In the process of making my dating profile I posted cute smiling pictures, an uplifting (and accurate) description of myself, and I try to be friendly and polite. I wasn't lying about myself, but I wasn't baring all my personal baggage. I said what I did want in a man, but I didn't say what I didn't. No drama = more messages. Why would I want a guy who couldn't at least seem pleasant on his profile?