I think we’ve heard just about all we can take about why black women are single. For the past few years, the media has seemed particularly concerned about our marital status, labeling our “plight” a crisis of epic proportions, and disseminating the news that unlike other women who are also waiting longer to walk down the aisle, black women are hopelessly and helplessly single. But lost in the discussion about why we are dreadfully alone is the opposite side of the equation—black men. If black women are single, aren’t black men as well?

The statistics tell us that black men are just as unmarried as black women, and yet no one is analyzing the status of dating and mating habits. Why?

A new film by Dr. Dwayne L. Buckingham, a psychotherapist and relationship counselor, aims to change that and take a look at what’s really keeping “good” brothas from committing.

The film, Qualified, Yet Single, is described as:

A film that explores the lives of several “well-qualified” single Black men who reveal their reasons for being single. Dr. Dwayne Buckingham’s primary reason for doing this film was to give single men, who are perceived to be well qualified, a platform to speak their truth, but also provide single women with the subtle red flags to look for in a “good” man prior to jumping into a relationship.

Dr. Buckingham has made helping folks his life’s works and draws on his fourteen years of experience as a licensed psychotherapist to help men and women realize that “qualifications do not make a man qualified to be in a relationship.”

Check out the trailer and let us know what you think.

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  1. AnorexicBob

    By single, do they mean unmarried or not in a relationship ? Myself, I am in a committed relationship but I am not married.

    • Being single means NOT MARRIED. Having a girl/boyfriend or fiancé means you are single.

  2. AnorexicBob

    I know for many black men who prefer black women, they often cannot find a decent black women that is marriage material. These men usually have to branch out for non-black women or just stay single.

    Many black men are branching out. You will find that nearly 25% of black men who got married in 2010, got married to non-black women. I’m seeing a lot of professional black men that really do want to get married, but it took them awhile to recognize the short of qualified black women and these men have finally started to adjust and not limit themselves to only black women.