It’s common knowledge that a daughter’s healthy relationship with her father bolsters her self-image, her confidence, and her ability to develop trusting relationships with the opposite sex. What’s less common is meeting black women who’ve been able to take full advantage of those benefits, with a loving, consistently accessible dad.
As research and a preponderance of anecdotal evidence indicate, the black community has “daddy issues.”
Still, black women who consider themselves the apple of their daddy’s eye aren’t nearly as scarce as we’re being led to believe. I grew up with plenty of them: daddy-daughter dance attendees, cotillion girls whose fathers formally presented them to polite society, girls whose fathers quipped about shotguns when they were old enough to date or whose fathers ensured they had used, practical cars by junior year of high school. In college, their fathers whooped and fist-pumped at their graduation and emptied the hefty contents of their off-campus apartments onto their backs. They co-signed home loans, provided down payments, and bragged incessantly about their brilliant daughters, whose entry-level jobs in advertising may as well have been akin to directing Super Bowl commercials when they were finished describing it.
Dads and daughters who get along well, confide in one another, and weather their differences in healthy ways are really sweet to see, together in action.
With Father’s Day coming up this weekend, now is a great time for Clutchettes who have great relationships with their dads (or who are just loyal to them to a fault) to weigh in on what it’s like to be a daddy’s girl.
Let’s work toward shaping a more positive narrative about black women’s relationships with their fathers.
Here’s your space to tell us about your favorite dad moment, the best advice you received from him, or how you feel about your adult relationship with him.
(Please note that more complicated and/or problematic relationships with fathers will be explored later this week. If yours falls into that category, please refrain from discussing it here.)