I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of opportunists trying to normalize negative behaviors. For years now we’ve been privy to all sorts of foolishness that has propagated the lie that being a rich man’s play thing is the easiest way to financial security.

I mean, if we are to believe the “Housewives,” “Basketball” (ex) “Wives,” and all manner of reality shows that depict women behaving badly, being a jump-off (or the ex of somebody famous) pays.

Only it doesn’t; at least not for most women.

If it did, these ladies wouldn’t be whoring themselves to the TV cameras in rented luxury cars and leased homes, flaunting their “wealth” to the masses. If being a jump-off truly led to financial security, we wouldn’t need to hear about it, see it, or even know they were “escorts” to some of their city’s richest and morally questionable men (peace to Marlo). And yet, they keep trying to convince us that being little more than a sexual toy is the way to go.

Enter The Real Mistresses of Atlanta, a visual monstrosity concocted by music producer and Pro Style Gel spokesman Memphitz. Apparently, he felt that our already overcrowded airways weren’t quite ratchet enough and he needed to drag us down yet another notch. Sensing that he could capitalize on our willingness to watch mind-numbing drama, Memphitz is currently trying to sell a show that gives us an inside look at some of Atlanta’s most in-demand mistresses (which, in the A, predictably includes a guy).

While the majority of the cast is black, the token white woman comes out guns blazing when she asks, “Who wants to f-ck a black p—sy?” and explains that black men love her … because she’s white. How cute.

Don’t get me wrong. I understand that the “other woman” has been profiting off her status for a while. In ideal mistress situations she may have gotten an apartment, a filled closet, and a few pieces of bling for her on-demand services, but in most cases, the scenario is much less glamorous, involving a bucket of chicken and gas money if she’s lucky.

You see, by constantly glamorizing this behavior and bringing it to the light, we are signaling to young women that it’s perfectly normal to sell yourself for a man’s attention so long as he gives you something of value in the process. We are telling them it’s OK to come second or third and jump to his every command so long as he breaks you off a little change in the end.

But it’s not OK. We all know it. And while some of these women are certainly getting over, the price they pay for losing their dignity, being treated like doormats, and giving up their self-respect to the highest bidder just doesn’t seem worth it.

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  • Kam

    Did…did Kim on Housewives of Atlanta really say that?

    • Tired

      No. She’s referring to a different chick that is itching for her comeuppance by being messy on tv. This show doesn’t have a distributor yet but you can watch the first episode online.

  • Gina

    These white women are getting bold now!

    Wow, and you know, she probably thinks its okay because of a black man saying that to her. I swear, I know some white girls who get SHOCKED when any man would be attractive to a black woman FIRST over her. Especially if its a black guy.

    It’s pathetic

    • JuneBug

      Everything you said. All day, everyday. And then if we bring up the FACT that they run to the plastic surgeon to get features that have ALWAYS been associated with BW, then it’s all “oh BW are not the only ones with blah blah blah”. SMDH

    • Hmmm…..

      @Gina – The media and the types of black men that they deal with pump their heads up. Not all black men who date interracially do this, but some do. I think the media shows more BM/WW couples than BM/BW couples. Maybe BM/BW might seem to BETish . The I-Robot, Hancock, Hitch thing you know. Frankly some BM hate BW. Maybe they’ve had bad dealings with them all their life, so they date other women. These men will tell other women that they are superior because they have lighter skin, long hair, and pleasant personalities that black women just don’t have because we are all supposedly weave wearing Sapphires. It is shocking to these women that BM would find black women attractive. I think many of them think that BM are with BW because they have no other options or no chance with a WW.

    • JuneBug

      @ Hmmm…..
      I agree with everything you’ve said too. But let a BM tell it, oh BW are colorstruck due to weaves and you know, good ol’ Debarge!

  • iQgraphics

    Now we know what memphitz doing with toya carter child support money…

  • TheBlackBelle

    lol. They have. It’s called BMF wives!