It’s that time of year again, Father’s Day is upon us this weekend and somewhere between the commercials about gifts for dad and the rhetoric about whether or not dads are as financially valuable as moms, is the growing trend of giving single moms Father’s Day cards.
Last year I wrote about the bitter chicks (sorry, that was harsh) who couldn’t wait to use their Facebook statuses and tweets to knock all the deadbeat dads, thus turning a day to honor great dads into a collective group therapy session. And I get it. Some people didn’t grow up with fathers at home, let alone have fond memories of the man who gave them life. But for those of us who did, the massive negative vibes sent out on Father’s Day was a bit disheartening.
Recently, a friend of mine sent out a “warning” status on Facebook. She informed her friends NOT to tell her “Happy Father’s Day” on Sunday. You see, she’s a single mom, but like many, she doesn’t want any special praise for having to play both roles. But the trend of shouting out moms on Father’s Day seems to be growing.
This morning one of my Facebook groups erupted in discussions about whether or not giving single moms Father’s Day cards glorified single-parenthood, diminished the value dads, or was just a byproduct of a growing shift in American culture.
As you can imagine, the debate was pretty intense. Most of the men in the group were adamantly opposed to the idea of giving moms Father’s Day cards and many of the women (some single mothers) agreed. Another friend, however, pointed out that she was raised by her dad after her mother passed away and routinely gave her father both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day cards to show her appreciation for his efforts as a parent.
While I understand the resistance to giving women Father’s Day cards, if a child wants to honor their parent—no matter whose “day” it is—I’m all for it.
But what do you think? Mother’s Day cards for single fathers and Father’s Day cards for single moms—a do or a don’t?