The first time I was semi-introduced to pornography, I was a freshman in college.  I was dragged to the room next to mine where two of my homegirls were cracking up over an “actress” who had attempted– and failed — to swing her leg over her “co-star’s” head and knocked the hell out of him.

Second time, I was about 21-years-old and two of my friends were taking notes from another ‘actress” so they could implement the moves in the bedroom…or bathroom…or pool…or the nearest park. Fast forward years later, and I always find the forced sexuality of pornography much too contrived to be arousing.  But most men feel completely different.

The mere sight of t-and-a is enough to turn some grown men into prepubescent boys ogling their first Playboy. When you add in a couple of gyrations and fake moans, well, what’s there not for a guy to like, right? I’ve been told by several men — in committed relationships — that becoming aroused by other naked women in no way means they are less attracted to their significant others; it simply means that men are physiologically wired to react to anything in a sexual context.

But how does their mindless arousal affect their significant others?

According to study researcher Destin Stewart, a clinical psychology intern at the University of Florida, women in relationships with men who watch porn are more likely to suffer with low self-esteem:

The results showed that women who reported that their boyfriends or husbands looked at more pornography were less likely to be happy in their relationships than women who said their partners didn’t look at pornography very often. When women were bothered by their partner’s porn use, saying, for example, that they believed he was a porn addict or that he used porn more than a “normal” amount, they were also more likely to have low self-esteem and to be less satisfied with both their relationship and their sex life.

Keeping in mind that the participants in this survey were primarily young, white and heterosexual, how accurate do you find these results to be? And does it bother you if your man watches porn?



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  • binks

    No, not insecure. But as mention it depends on how the porn is being used, I get if it is once in a while but if it is habitual habit and used as a source of dependency that he feels like he HAS to watch it then a red flag would come up for me. But I won’t say that I’ am bothered by it unless he expects me to do something I’ am not comfortable with base on his viewing habit.

  • chanela

    Sounds pretty accurate. women are usually insecure anyway, and men like blonde with fake basketball tits porn. nobody needs a study to figure this out. could men watching porn however,be the reason why so many women opt for the same ugly giant fake breasts? since their man watches it so much so she assumes that is what she wants?

  • anna

    Look everyone points the finger and says women are too insecure and need to get over the porn thing…. If a male finds out his woman had been watching porn consistently without ever mentioning it to him and she looks up a particular type of porn do you think this guy is going to be elated and feel like he is king…. BS most men cant handle a blow to their ego, they would feel betrayed and just as insecure as any woman if not even more…

  • Anthony

    man or woman weather they want to admit it or not are bothered initially when THEIR partner watches porn secretly. just as much as they have the right to watch it you have the right not to like it if you want.if they can’t respect that leave email. And Oshh keep reading your word not everybody believes in the Bible.let God be true and every man a liar