There has been a lot of talk in the media lately about pictures of Lady Gaga where she is more curvaceous than the public is used to her being. Critics are calling her fat, lazy and urging her to lose weight. The thing is that this “obesity” that people are going crazy over is nothing more than curves that many women get as they age. Instead of feeling like we need to be a model-esqe stick figure all of our lives, we must embrace this sexy weight gain! It’s not about getting fat or being sloppy, but rather gaining the curvaceousness our bodies were meant to have.
Many may not know this, but lady Gaga come from Italian heritage. Curves are a natural asset for most women with an ethnic background. Stars are especially prompted to deny their natural figures by working out like maniacs and following an unsatisfactory diets. Having hips, thighs and a rotund behind is not the end of the world, yet society makes us feel like it is. The weight of negative comments comes down heavily on our female celebrities of Hispanic, African-American and Caribbean descent. They are told to fight these genetic curves with all of their might. By doing this, they are telling impressionable minds that they too should do all they can to fit into a body stereotype that may not be natural for their body types.
It is one thing to gain an unhealthy amount of weight that is detrimental to your health, but gaining 10 or 15 more pounds that actually compliments you is not the worst thing that could happen. I gave birth to my son 4 months ago. I lost the majority of the weight that I gained after giving birth, but I am still 15 pounds heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight. I was 130 and now I am 145 pounds. The amount of compliments I have gotten from family and friends is mind-blowing. I have had people tell me I look like a “real” woman now. My parents are from Trinidad. I was always teased about not having a bamsey. Now I have a bamsey, thighs and bigger breasts than I could have ever imagined I would have. I learned to embrace my new body because it is sexy and beautiful. I’m not sloppy. I still workout to keep things tight and to remain healthy. I am no longer obsessed with being 125 pounds.
All of our bodies change as we get older or go through life-changing experiences like giving birth. If you are a size 8 now instead of the size 2 that you were in your former years, there is nothing wrong with that. It’s all about being comfortable in your own skin and being HEALTHY. Being a stick figure doesn’t always mean that you are healthy.
We need to embrace our bodies, and the many shapes they may become. Having a little extra cushion is not something to be ashamed of. As woman this is something we need to understand, and encourage our sisters. Often times women are the harshest critics. We get enough combativeness about how we should look from men. We shouldn’t receive the same treatment from one another.
Those curves are sexy clutchettes. Flaunt them with pride!