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Robert Brown and Nathanael Gay are brave.

The couple, which tied the knot last month in a beautiful ceremony at the Griffin Gate Marriott Resort in Lexington, Kentucky, decided to share their precious moment with the world and posted a video of the celebration on YouTube. The video is quickly going viral and racking up spirited comments across various social networks.

As I watched the too-cute video, I felt conflicted about it being shared on social media. While I commended the two for being so open and marveled at how in love they looked, I felt sad for them because I knew the backlash would be vicious.

Despite it being 2012, many people don’t agree with homosexuality or think gays should have the right to marry. Although it’s within their right to feel that way, many take their opinions a step further and attempt to verbally condemn (and shame) those who live their lives differently. Predictably, that’s what is happening to Robert and Nathanael.

As the video began to spread, the comments grew. Twitter exploded and “Kappa” became a trending topic after folks picked up on the fact that Nathanael appears to be a member of Kappa Alpha Psi*, a historically black fraternity.

In one part of the video, Nathanael is seen “throwing up the Yo” (the hand sign) and presumably posing with other members of the fraternity. Many of the negative commenters used this brief image to condemn not only Robert and Nathanael, but also the fraternity as well.

While many of the comments about Robert and Nathanael’s union were positive, the onslaught of hate the wedding video provoked was astounding.

It’s clear when it comes to sexuality (and race, and sexism, and several other hot-button issues) people conveniently forget the adage, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep it to yourself.” But in this case, I wish they would. Not only are they taking shots at a couple’s special day, but they’re also slandering a 101-year-old institution in the process.


*Note: It hasn’t been confirmed that Robert or Nathanael are members of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc

**UPDATE: Robert, Nathanael’s husband has confirmed Nathanael is a member of KAPsi.

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  • bob marley

    I think that gay knew or should have known what was coming and i think hed did it on purpose.Dont feel sorry for them AT ALL They have the right to do wharever they want BUT as a Life Long Kappa i regret 100% the fact that she choose to put our fraternity in the middle of this.

  • the heart of Yashewa the mind of a scholar

    I must be honest I have been both inspired and afraid. Inspired because I want the heart that these two men have. The heart to find love and embrace it. Im afraid because I love Kappa Alpha Psi. It s who i am in my heart . But i don t want to lie to be accepted into the brotherhood. I live in Ohio and it s not exactly open minded here. I don t believe in gay, straight , or bi sexual. I believe people do what they do when they do it. drunk or sober. The labels are so that people can know how they look at each other {judge}. I could use some references from some Big Brothers in the Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity. { i understand that we must communicate for a while.}

  • Windy