I’m the oldest in my family so I’ve always felt responsible for everyone in my family. I would feel compelled to give them advice on everything from health to relationships to career. It came from a good place because I want the best for my siblings and am used to them coming to me for direction, at least when they were younger. But as they grew older and became more independent, I realized my opinion wasn’t always needed or wanted. And my nagging wasn’t helping but actually annoying them and pushing them away.

Now, that I’m in a loving relationship, I try not to diminish our time together by nagging my man about the little things. If I’m asked for advice, I’m always willing to share — and for the big issues, I do speak up — but comments about him not getting enough sleep or needing to eat better? I keep those to myself. The reality is he’s probably well aware of them, and doesn’t need to hear it repeatedly from me.

Mrs. Michelle Obama takes a similar approach when dealing with her opinion on issues with husband President Barack Obama. She talks about it tonight on Part I of her interview with ABC’s “Nightline” airing at 11:35PM EST:

“In a job like this, the last thing the president of the United States needs when he walks in the door to come home is someone drilling him and questioning him about the decisions and choices that he’s made. There are definitely times when I may feel something, but I’ll hold back because I know he’ll either get to that on his own or it’s just not time.”

I totally agree. There’s something to be said for having peace on your home and knowing the right time to speak up or just fall back and let your partner come to a realization on their own terms.

What’s your opinion on nagging, Clutchettes? It is necessary? Is it effective? Do you nag your mate?


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  • Mademoiselle

    I think nagging and what was brought up in this interview are different. Michelle grilling her husband over decisions he makes as president wouldn’t be nagging, it would be her interfering with his job — and I would hope she’s not unduly influencing the POTUS with her own agenda. To me, nagging is a personal life thing (when are you going to quit eating so much salt, why do you play so many video games, are you wearing that to visit my mother, etc).

    • Downsouth Transplant

      “are you wearing that to visit my mother” LMAO not nagging in my books covering my bases especially!

  • Tatyana

    Actually that’s not true. You can nag about different things like salt intake AND decisions they make on the job. I choose to do neither.

  • African Mami

    I’m just here for the lady in blue. She looks absolutely DROP DEAD GORGEOUS. There is something celestial about her…..who is she?? That blue against her blonde locks, is FIIIIYA.

    -Carry on.

  • Nagging is repeating the same damn thing overt and over and over again, again and again knowing damn well he doesnt want to do it.