“A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it.” – Alexandre Dumas
Here’s an interesting thing I learned about most people. While we are amazing cheerleaders for others—able to dole out great advice, unwavering support, and unbridled optimism—when it comes to being our own fierce advocate, we often times fall short.
For many of us, supporting others comes naturally, but advocating for our own needs and wants feels selfish and self-indulgent. Although we can encourage the hell out of our friends, telling them they can overcome any obstacle, we doubt our own ability to succeed.
Your friend isn’t any more capable, resilient, or intelligent than you. So if you can convince them they can meet any challenge head on, you can also convince yourself.
While it pays to have a great group of friends in your corner, we are our own best ally. But if your inner dialogue is riddled with doubt, fear, and negativity; you won’t be able to succeed.
Changing our mind can be tough, but it’s necessary.
Instead of second-guessing your every move and talking down to yourself about your mistakes, take some time every day to tell yourself how smart and beautiful and capable you are. Even if you don’t believe it right away, continue speaking those words of encouragement to yourself–daily.
Soon they will take hold and you’ll be amazed at how transforming your perspective can help you achieve your goals.