Evette Holyfield, daughter of boxing legend Evander Holyfield, is speaking out about her quest to remain a virgin until she’s married. Holyfield, now 27, spoke with Essence.com about her conviction and why she decided to keep such a promise.
When asked why she decided to remain abstinent, Holyfield explains:
We grew up in a Christian home. When I was around six years old, my dad said to me, “You don’t need to have sex outside of marriage.” He went through the whole spiel with me. So as I grew up, I thought, okay dad, if you don’t want me to do it, I’m not gonna do it. Then I started to really understand church – the words in the Bible and what the pastor is really saying. At that point, I wasn’t just doing it because my dad said don’t, but rather, I now believe that by waiting, God will bless me and bring me a great husband. I want to meet somebody amazing, and I know that if I do this, I’m doing this for him and I. That’s what I want.
According to her Twitter page, Holyfield is a “stylist, model, motivational speaker, and designer,” and she often speaks to young girls about saving themselves until marriage, a pledge she has devoutly practiced.
Unlike some who say their abstinence is a struggle, Holyfield told Essence, she doesn’t even think about sex.
It’s easy for me. I was in a three-year relationship, and I never had those desires for him in that way. He never pressured me. In my mind, I already have it set that I’m not gonna do it, so if someone were to pressure me, it wouldn’t even phase me. I just don’t have those desires.
Holyfield says she doesn’t feel pressured by those in her circle to have sex because her sister and some of her friends are also virgins. But for those who question her commitment, she makes it plain.
Some women have said to me, “Why would anyone want to date you if you haven’t had sex?” I ask them, “Why would anyone want to date someone who has slept with the whole world?” Having sex with a man is not what’s going to set you apart. What’s going to set you apart is what’s in your head. Show a guy something different — something that will stimulate his mind, not something they see or get all the time.
Holyfield isn’t the only one who has come forward to discuss their virginity. Track star Lolo Jones and American Idol star Jordin Sparks have also spoken openly about delaying sex until marriage.
While some will look at Holyfield and wonder why she’s sharing her private life with the world, I think her point of view offers a valuable counterpoint to the over-sexualized images our young people see in the media every day.