Once upon a time I was totally against public displays of affection (PDA), well not totally. I didn’t want to see anyone swapping spit or fondling each other in a public area. I didn’t care how old or young you were. That was until I took part in some PDA. Nothing heavy though. There wasn’t any dry humping or tonsillectomies being performed, just some innocent pecks on the cheeks. With that said, I can understand how some people may find PDA skeevy and not want it in their line of sight.
This past weekend in Westfield Galleria Mall in California, a security guard kicked a young couple out for their PDA. They were simply holding hands and kissing while shopping. Nothing out of the ordinary, or nothing that could be relegated to the Spice Channel. Daniel Chesmore, 21, told the local Sacramento Fox affiliate this week, “I kissed him on the cheek. That’s how my boyfriend and I show affection.” And, he said, “This is exactly what we did at the mall on Saturday.”
Yes, the couple that was kicked out of the mall is gay.
When Chesmore and his boyfriend, Jose Guzman, 24, were confronted by the security guard, they began to record him. “If you continue to kiss, you will be asked to leave the mall. Period,” the voice on the recording said. “I counted you guys kissing 25 times. I told you before, we contact any couple […] about this.
So the guard stood there and supposedly counting them kissing 25 times, while the shoplifters were probably having a field day at Ambercrombie & Fitch.
California news station, Fox 40, did an undercover investigation at the Westfield Galleria Mall, just to see if other couples were treated the same way. While they spotted several heterosexual couples kissing and holding hands, none of the couples were asked to leave. Mall General Manaqger, Eddie Ollmann released a written statement, “Persons that violate the Code of Conduct are asked to leave the property.”
Apparently this rule was left out of the mall’s code of conduct.
“It makes me feel like no matter what I do in society, I will always be different.” Chesmore says.
The couple also went on to explain that they never kiss on the lips in public out of respect of children that may be around. Well good for them, because I know some heterosexual couples that don’t give a damn about that.
Why is LGBTQ PDA looked down upon more than straight PDA?