Iyanla Vanzant doles out hard-hitting life advice on her OWN show “Iyanla: Fix My Life” but her subjects extend past the celebrities and everyday people who appear on the series. She fixed her gaze on black women at Essence Festival when she referred to black women being “out-of-order” on a panel.
She expounded upon that claim during an interview with Madame Noire, saying:
“We have such a rich culture and in that culture, there are roles and purposes and powers. And we live in a society now where women are commodities, where women are demeaned, diminished, demoralized in ways that we accommodate.
And if we really understood who we are as feminine representations of the creator of the universe, some of the things that we experience in life — like crying when the unemployed boo boo leaves us — if we really understood who we are, we wouldn’t be so apt to let other people define us and confine us. We are out-of-order!
We give men, let me just say people, who are not honorable respectful sensitive to who we are – we give them reign in our lives in ways that make us mentally emotionally and physically sake.
There is no reason to continue to have children with men who don’t honor us and don’t take care of their children. Out of order.”
She also said that black women are guilty of “defiling” one another by “sleeping with another woman’s man, betraying one another’s confidence and not honoring one another’s word.”