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The media has not been kind to Tameka Raymond. The ex-wife and mother of singer Usher Raymond’s two children has been on the receiving end of a number of insults from gold digger to babymama to bitter black woman. She’s finally speaking out about it in the wake of a pool incident that almost took her 5 year-old son, Usher V’s life.

Tameka addressed the criticism on “Good Morning America,” today saying of her portrayal in the media: “I’m just bad, hell on wheels. One thing I will say is, I’m an individual. I don’t have a publicist, I don’t have a manager. I don’t have an agent. I just have regular, working-class friends and family. We don’t know how to fight the machine. […] It’s hurtful sometimes because it’s so far from the truth. You’re talking about a woman that has her own career and to be reduced to some babymama, that’s bitter and that’s a gold digger, its hurtful.”

In her words, she’s been misunderstood. She cleared up several untruths circulating in the media via Necole Bitchie:

On her reaction to the incident
I was mad because I was like ‘How did this even happen? Who was watching him? Why was my son under water for nearly 3 minutes?’

On where she was when she receive the call
I was at a dental appointment. He doesn’t call me regularly, so when I saw his number come up. I immediately jumped up because I figured he has the boys. I need to get this.

On having to relive the moment when her so Kyle died
It was like I relived it. My brain just went into all of those modes. I even said on the phone ‘I’ve had this call before.’

On whether she thinks Usher is at fault
I didn’t blame Usher for it. I was just angry that it happened on his watch, because while accidents happen, never have my children been injured on my watch.

On filing the emergency hearing
When the incident happened, my attorney filed a emergency motion, so that when my son was released from the hospital, he wasn’t going to have to go back to the house where the incident happened. Because based on our custody schedule, just like now my son was released into his fathers care again, I deemed that an emergency.

On what she’d like to see happen
I would like to have my first right of refusal, which means that when he is not present , the kids come home to their mom, they don’t stay home with the nanny and watch whatever show he is on. They come home to their mom. I had to see on Instagram that my 4-year-old lost his first tooth, that’s my baby. Things that are precious moments and milestones, I’m just missing them.

On her having to take a psychological test and having a ‘moderately severe mental disorder’
Yes. I’m going to be retested. You would think that from hearing that, it sounds like ‘Wow, she must be cutting the kids or beating them excessively or on crack or selling crack.’

On whether she thinks Usher hates her
Nope. Absolutely not. He is the father of my children and I love my kids more than life itself.

Tameka is far from blameless in the Raymond vs. Raymond debacle, I hate to see the public paint her as another crazed, bitter, unfit black mother. It’d be hard for any loving parent to sit on the sidelines for significant moments in their children’s lives, and she deserves to be able to tell her side of the story. What do you think of Tameka’s “GMA” interview?

Watch video of the interview below:

 

-Nadiah Bryant

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  • Sister Ashe

    Is the media too hard? The media hardly even knows who Tameka is! The problem here is so many of our self-loathing selves really wanted to know who the hell does this older dark-skinned divorced baby mama think she is to marry an international Black superstar. And from that moment on, we dictated her storyline, degraded her as a Black woman, mother and wife and the media ran with it.

  • Child, Please

    I don’t think the media is too hard on Tameka; in all honesty, they rarely think about her. She comes to them with her story. If anything, talking about the situation isn’t helping her case and hasn’t in the past; I wish her lawyers would advise that instead of trying to gain sympathy at every corner. It’s a game both are playing (and I’m surprised he decided not to comment on the situation) and It’s old and vindictive. Neither seem to care about the kids, but rather having the last laugh.

  • Starla

    I think too many people found fault with this woman on her physical appearance. Her self-esteem was likely so battered that she almost lost her life in Brazil trying to fit the model appearance.

    I have always felt that Usher used her for her uterus; yeah, I know it’s an out there thought, but I honestly feel as though he summed her up and saw that she was a fit women who had given birth to healhty, attractive children and used her for her procreating abilities. He liked that she only seemed to only make boys, when she dropped the babies he quickly divorced and made sure he got full custody.

  • Smilez_920

    1) I forgot who said it but I 100% agree. A lot of women (Usher fans) paint Tameka as this horrible person. I’m sure some of it is jealous. I remember when he first came out with her in public and women (the majority of them probably look just like Tameka) couldn’t wait to say how “plain she looked”. Or how she didn’t look like Chilli. I guess if one “plain Jane” can’t have him then no one can.

    2) They’ve had a very ugly and public divorce. Unfortunately during that time Tameka tried to use the media as her weapon but it backfired on her. Out of the two Usher stayed quit and tried to let things ride out. Tameka was on the radio and blogs every chance she got. Kind of like Mashonda and Swiss beats. It made her look bitter. Sometimes it’s best to handle things in private.

    3) I feel bad for Tameka. She already lost one child so I understand her concern.

    4) I don’t think Usher being “busy/at work” is a reason for him to have to give up custody. If it was the other way around we would have sympathy for a hard working black mother, I would feel that leaving the kids with grandma or auntie is fine. I do think they should work out an agreement where Tameka can have the kids while he’s away. But I’m sure it’s going to cause an issue in child support.

  • SayWhat

    I have no sympathy for her because she cheated on her ex to be with Usher, so yeah, I did see her as a gold digger. I believe that the saying is ‘if you marry for money, you will have to earn every penny of it’ and it seems to me that she is living proof.