Waitstaff will eventually learn to use tact when attempting to identify customers on receipts. A British restaurant came under fire when two customers were provided their receipt and learned they were identified as “gay guys”. Al Butler and his friend, both aged 26, were not too pleased when they noticed the labeling on their receipt from Judson’s Bar, in Pocklington, East Yorkshire. Ironically, both men identify as straight.

“I obviously thought it was inappropriate,” said Butler in an interview. “It’s as equally unacceptable as racism… It’s not a bad thing to be called gay — although I’m not and neither is my friend — but I think it’s prejudiced. It’s jumping to a conclusion without the need to do so.”

Once Butler issued a complaint to the waitress, she told him, “Sorry, there’s nothing I can do.”

Peter Ward, the bar’s own, did issue his own apology, stating, “We have apologized unreservedly. While it was completely wrong, I don’t feel it was prejudiced… It was completely unprofessional and it is not what our business is about.”

A spokesperson for the York Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Forum discussed the incident with reporters, stating, “Clearly this is an unacceptable and wrong stereotype made by a member of staff at the bar, but it is also a mistake which could cause great offence and upset to anyone involved, regardless of their sexuality… We would welcome any business to contact us should they feel their staff require training on issues of equality, where we would be more than happy to assist.”

According to reports, the waitress involved in the incident has been disciplined and the bar is now looking into training initiatives to make sure something like this doesn’t happen again.

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  • CNG

    In this case both men were straight but had they been “gay guys” and the waiter put that on the receipt while doing so would be immature it would be true. If I was in a restaurant and someone wrote “Black lady” on the receipt I would notify the manager, ball it up and throw it away.

    Maybe Im too easy going. Yes I think writing that on a receipt was juvenile, stupid and wrong but I don’t think its something like this deserves attention. Things like this just don’t bother me for some reason… Idk.

  • SAA

    “It’s as equally unacceptable as racism…”

    False. Tired of seeing this equivalency being made and I’m not engaging this foolishness.

    “It’s not a bad thing to be called gay — although I’m not and neither is my friend — but I think it’s prejudiced. It’s jumping to a conclusion without the need to do so.”

    It is prejudiced however if its not a “bad thing” to be called gay then what’s the problem? I could see being upset if they wrote “fags” or “fudge packers” on the receipt but they wrote gay. The way these men have handled the situation shows they not crusaders for gay rights or offended on behalf of gay people, they’re mad on account of mistaken sexuality.

    • SAA

      *”they’re not” not “they not”. My apologies.

    • Bridget


    • So now, if someone identifies someone as “gay” or “lesbian” and the people aren’t gay/lesbian, they should just write it off? I’d be upset too, especially since I am not a lesbian. They have a right to be upset if they are labeled something they aren’t. The very fact that he had to preface his comment with, “It is prejudiced however if its not a bad thing to be called gay” tells me that the gay community is more protected than Black folks and NO ONE hesitates to offend us.

      I’m sick of this tip toeing around gays/lesbians. If they were offended, they have every right to be.

      I know what I’m saying isn’t PC, but I don’t care.

  • I don’t understand how things like this keep happening. I believe there have been other similar events in the news recently where people’s race and weight were referenced on the receipt. Seriously, is it that difficult for waitstaff to differentiate patrons without being offensive. I wonder how they’d appreciate it if in the tip line the patron wrote “asshole waiter/waitress” to designate who the tip should go to.

    • SAA

      They probably wouldn’t care. Some people don’t tip at all or leave shitty tips so they’d probably take the money and not blink an eye at whatever you call them.

  • I waited on tables years ago.We had this little thing called table numbers. I know sounds crazy. I guess the kids these days don’t know how to count or use the alphabet.

    • Jen Jen

      Table numbers?!?! Next thing you’re going to tell me is that the world is round. ::scoffs::

  • Starla

    The table number is on the receipt.lol.

    I must confess that I did chuckle when I first saw this in the news last week. My gaydar is just about as bad as the waitress’s. I am sure these guys would not have cared if the receipt had read: hot guys, stools..they just mad it said gay..lol