There’s the saying, “live life with no regrets”, but according to one study, both men and women share regrets about their sex lives.
In the October 2013 issue of the Archives of Sexual Behavior,researchers from the University of Texas at Austin, analyzed data from three different studies, one of which included over 24,000 participants. Although both sexes had their fair share of regrets, they were quite different. Men seemed to regret the sexual adventures they passed on and didn’t pursue, where women expressed regret over the things that they had done.
The most common regrets for women were:
1. Losing their virginity to the wrong partner (24 percent of respondents)
2. Cheating on a present or past partner (23 percent)
3. Moving too fast sexually (20 percent)
The most common regrets for men were drastically different:
1. Failing to make a move on a prospective sexual partner (27 percent of respondents)
2. Not being more sexually adventurous in their youth (23 percent)
3. Not being more sexually adventurous when single (19 percent)
The researchers noted that the differences in regrets are evolutionary, but also note that cultural standards play a huge role.
“We do not doubt that social norms, such as a sexual ‘double standard,’ play a major role in sexual regret,” Galperin said in a Nov. 25 press release. “But these norms themselves might have roots in the ancient selection pressures shaping women’s and men’s minds.”