First let me start off by saying my opinion will probably be unpopular. Some women might respond to my answer screeching in agreeable elation or repulse with frumpy looks of disgust.

10746_10153737649375705_462865196_nA woman between the ages of 23-40 with  between 5 and 25 partners is okay with me, you could perhaps even have more than that; I’ve never been quick to judge. I prefer my significant other to be skilled in our palace of pleasure, however I do understand that the number of partners does not equate to skill level- but it could.It’s 2014 women have degrees, bread, careers, and women be traveling. What do all of these things represent? Desire. A desire to have more than what they inherited when they were born. A desire to do as they please without regard for judgement.  

As an epicurean, I understand desire and sensual pleasure. The difference between a woman that sleeps with a fair number of men and a woman deemed as a h*e is a list of things, but the greatest would be discretion.The ability to discern between a gentleman/man with great character or one with lack thereof. Also the ability to choose partners that won’t discuss everything that happens between the sheets with whomever will listen.  To the contrary, I also know that discretion could be used to decide to not lay with a handful of partners, but I gave you my range and we’ll stick with that for today. My only true advice would be to; live out your fantasies, seek pleasure and be safe while you’re doing it. And if you can conquer all three with one partner, than more power to you.I just truly don’t agree with a lot of gender stereotypes when it comes to sex. I believe that women should be able to get it popping just like the fellas or both sexes should regard themselves in high enough esteem not to be easy as a whole.

Either way sinner or saint, both genders should be able to do as the other does. Of course we do not live in a society that believes what I believe. It’s acceptable for men to philander, but not for women- there are things physiologically that point to why men almost need to fornicate and replicate. However from a spiritual standpoint man or woman when you give yourself to someone sexually they hold a piece of you forever rather you call, text, continue to have sex, or even remember them or not. So it’s definitely up to you to decide who you want holding a piece of you and what memories you want them to have of you.Ladies, if you have a sexually bucket list; public sex, threesome(with two men instead of the standard w-w-m men force on you), want to be DP’ed, bdsm, role playing, want to be watched- do them.

TheSUNK is a Chicagoan, Howard University student, and creator of theSUNK.com (the Sh*t U Need 2 Know). He’s also a Writer and the Social Media Manager at SingleBlackMale.org, Food and Dating Writer at EliteDCMag, and columnist for Howard University’s The Hilltop student newspaper.

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  • @ Anthony

    I don’t know every guy but I think its as easy for men to get sex as it is for women to give it up. I mean my ex wasn’t the greatest looker but he had 30+ partners or so he claimed. there is men who don’t look like the Denzel of the world and they end up having a 100+ partners and 100+ kids to go along with it. I think maybe the numbers go down if the guy is willing to have sex with a certain kind of woman and not just any woman. If I am understanding what you are getting at.

    • Anthony

      You are right in that most men I know who have been with dozens of women have slept with a lot of women I would not touch. Similarly, a woman always being able to give it up presupposes a woman not being very selective.

      I dramatically overstated my case. I guess my faulty logic is a strong unintended argument for avoiding needless discussion of one’s sexual past.

  • Z

    He actually sounds more enlightened than many men out here today.

  • Jenny

    The author is coming from a good place. I dont think its necessary for a mate to know how many sexual partners their mate has had unless it involves diseases, kids, etc as others have mentioned. My current boyfriend knows because he asked and I was not ashamed to disclose my high number.
    If your mate is not understanding/open minded enough to handle any amount of sexual partners you have had, be it none to 1000, maybe that isnt the relationship for you.
    I know I personally do not need another person’s validation of my sexual past. Like me or not, I don’t care.
    Having many partners is not a valid meter to find sexual performance. A man or woman can have 100 sexual partners and not spend enough time to figure out their body and niches

    Lastly this nonsense about leaving your soul with each person you have had sex with sounds like bs lol.