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Former middleweight boxing champion Kassim “the Dream” Ouma is behind bars today after allegedly pummeling a gay man who came onto him.

TMZ Sports gives the details:

Former pro boxing champ Kassim Ouma was arrested for battery in L.A. on Friday — after knocking out a man who was allegedly making gay advances toward him … TMZ Sports has learned.

Law enforcement sources tell us … the former IBF junior middleweight champion is telling investigators … he was hanging out in Hollywood early Friday morning when he struck up a conversation with a guy he just met.

Ouma says the two went back to the other man’s home for a drink … where the guy allegedly made a pass at the boxer.

We’re told … Ouma claims he politely declined multiple advances … but says when he got up to leave, the guy made one final move — and Ouma shoved him away.

The altercation then escalated … with Ouma allegedly knocking the guy out cold.

Cops were called to the scene — where the victim was treated and transported to a nearby hospital.

Ouma was ultimately arrested for felony battery causing great bodily harm.

We tried to contact Ouma for comment — but he’s still behind bars.

Ouma’s side of the story reads like a classic attempted sexual assault, with one key difference: Ouma is a man.

This incident got me to thinking. Had Ouma been a woman and beat down a man whom she accused of attacking her, naysayers would be coming out of the woodwork to question her judgment and her version of events. While Ouma certainly has his critics, most of the comments I’ve read have centered on whether or not Ouma would even find himself in custody today if he were a woman who fought off her attacker, because “No means no,” right?

Well…not always.

Unless a stranger pops out of the bushes and rapes someone, time after time, victims of assault are viewed suspiciously by those second guessing their actions.

And though many will wonder what exactly when down between Ouma and the unnamed man, here are 10 questions they won’t be asking anytime soon.

#1 So…what were you wearing?

Even if he rolled into the man’s apartment in his boxing trunks and an oiled up chest, no one will argue Ouma’s outfit provoked his attacker. 

#2 Why’d you go to his apartment anyway?

I doubt many will question Ouma’s decision to head back to a stranger’s home to have a drink—even if it wasn’t the safest thing to do.

#3 What did you expect?

Will anyone shake their head and wonder why Ouma did not expect the man to try to fondle him after agreeing to have another drink? Methinks not.

#4 Did you actually say no?

FYI: For the doubting Tomases in the peanut gallery ONLY no means no. Stop, get off me, leave me alone, or move don’t actually count as proper responses to those who question the validity of a sexual assault victim’s story.

#5 Did you leading him on?

Unlike women who are assaulted, I’m almost certain no one will wonder (or even ask) if Ouma, a former Ugandan child soldier, did something to provoke the assault.

#6 You were drinking, are you sure you were assaulted?

Despite the optics of the situation, Ouma won’t have worry about people discounting his (alleged) assault, or even excusing it, because he and his (alleged) attacker were drinking.

#7 Are you even a virgin?

Duh, you know, only virgins can be raped (everyone else is pretty much asking for it). And as a hyper-masculine pro-boxer, folks won’t even wonder about this. 

#8 Why were you out so late?

Who cares if Ouma was hanging out during raping hours (FYI: those are between 9pm and 5am, or whenever a rape occurs), no one will question his decision to enjoy a night out.

#9 Are you sure you were attacked?

Perhaps Ouma’s attacker was just reaching for the remote and the boxer freaked out? If Ouma was a woman, I can hear the critics now: “It could happen.”

#10 Why didn’t you call the police?

Hmmm….I dunno. Maybe because most attackers never serve a day in jail and it’s embarrassing to admit you got assaulted (especially if you’re a man)?

FYI: Here’s what you should say to a sexual assault victim (via RAINN)

 

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  • Ivory

    Why didn’t he call the police? Because he is a man and there are serious taboos surrounding men being victims of sexual assault.

    • Riyo.Chiasa

      Possibly because he is a former boxer and could defend himself.

    • Ivory

      No man wants to be put in a situation where he is defending himself from sexual assault. He doesn’t want anyone to know why he had to kick that guys butt.

      Show me a man who will regale his family in friends about how he had to protect himself from sexual assault. Yet he will till anyone how he was the toughest guy in school or in his neighbourhood.

    • Riyo.Chiasa

      Did you see the word ‘possibly’?

    • according to figures that include sexual abuse in prisons, more men are raped in the U.S. than woman.

  • Great questions. we know that rape is so egregious that no human would ever accused another of rape if it never happened. so when a person reports rape, there should be no due process, the incident must not be investigated and the accused rapist should just be thrown in jail.