The recently released video of Baltimore Ravens player Ray Rice punching his then fiancee and now wife Janay in an Atlantic City elevator, then dragging her out unconscious, is the talk of the week. Again. The NFL suspended Rice indefinitely and he was let go from the Ravens. But maybe this should have been done sooner? Like when it happened in February?
Many people have asked why would Janay stay with Rice after being brutally assaulted. But domestic violence is never an easy situation to deal with, which is why the hashtags #WhyIStayed and #WhyIleft were created.
The hashtag was created by writer Beverly Gooden, who was physically abused by her former husband for over a year. In a post on her website, Gooden explains that it’s not always that simple. “Leaving was a process, not an event,” she writes. “And sometimes it takes awhile to navigate through that process.” Gooden also expressed the hope that the hashtag will help people “find a voice, find love, find compassion, and find hope.”
— Katherine Romero (@KatherineRomero) September 9, 2014
— Denise Russell (@DRussell76) September 9, 2014
— Rae (@Goddess_Rae) September 9, 2014
I live to be the example for my sisters who did not have the opportunity to start over, to learn how to love, and be free #whyileft
— Toshia Shaw (@WritingAddict) September 9, 2014
Thousands of similar tweets have been shared across social media, but after hearing Janay’s response to the issue today, one can only hope she chooses the right path in her life.