I think I was about 17 when Eric Benet and Halle Berry divorced. I distinctly remember my jaw dropping over a bowl of Frosted Flakes one morning when I heard the news on the radio that he had supposedly cheated on her. And then it hit me. Even Halle Berry wasn’t safe from infidelity. Over the years, as I’ve grown and come to understand more about relationships and life in general, I realized that no matter what you look like – you can always be cheated on. Droves of drop dead gorgeous Hollywood women experience infidelity with their rapper, ball player and actor boyfriends/husbands as do everyday beautiful women and their truck driver, corporate 9-5, blue-collar men.

If Hollywood taught me anything it’s that you should never break a sweat changing anything about your physical appearance to appeal to anyone if the end goal is landing a faithful significant other or somehow beating out the competition so you’re looking better than 43% of the female population in your city. At most, one’s best bet for finding or being found by someone who isn’t a serial cheater, means practicing the art of radical self-love as a means to becoming your most authentic self.

At the end of the day, ass injections, breast implants, killer abs and the most expensive weave can only go but so far. You still need to be a decent human being under all the body work and even decent human beings aren’t exempt from the game. Just remember your destiny isn’t tied to anyone who leaves your life, or anyone you remove from your life via divorce papers for being a serial cheater.

And this doesn’t mean you don’t go to the gym. You should definitely go to the gym and maybe eat less candy because health.

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  • Chrissy

    There are so many reasons why mean cheat, there are so many reasons why women cheat. Sometimes it has to do with the partner they are with and sometimes it has to do with selfishness….well let me just be honest…it all has to do with selfishness. I know I am going to get alot of thumbs down for this but here is the truth….if you do not have God as truly the head of your life you will do anything. There are reasons why God says “renew your mind” “do not conform to this world” “the two shall become one”. I have been married for over 5 years….does it get old….YES. I see attractive guys all the time, but I made a covenant….not solely a committment to my husband to forsake all others. Could I cheat and my husband never find out….possibly. Could I cheat and God allows me into heaven with open arms as an adultress…possibly not. This society has moved so far from bliblical principles that we don’t even call sin what it is. We call it a “mistake” or “i wasn’t happy anymore” “I have to live for me” all these things are so contrary to the word of God. Life happens and we can only control our own behavior…no one elses, but people show you who they are all the time…sometimes, especially women, we don’t want to see it. Loving someone is not enough, looks are not enough, saying and doing the right things in a relationship is not enough…the people involved have to have made a personal committment to live a life above reproach, to do what is right when no one is looking (although God always sees), to keep your word, and live honestly. I read an awesome quote and it has stuck with me: When you go outside the will of God to get something you may have to stay outside the will of God to keep it.

    • Sarah Djarnie Brown

      DEEP!!! I agree with every word!!

  • Overseas_Honeybee

    @Chrissy. You getting a thumbs UP from me. I totally agree with everything you said because it’s true. Relationships and marriages take work, prayer and personal commitment. Nobody wants to hear that though. The only time we want God involved is when things are going wrong.